Understanding if someone is meant to be a lifelong partner involves noticing specific behaviors in a relationship. These behaviors can give us clues about whether the relationship is likely to last. From how we talk to each other to our dreams for the future, these signs help us figure out if our partner might be the right one for the long run.
1. Consistent Communication
When someone truly cares, they make an effort to stay connected. It’s not about texting every second, but it’s the consistent effort to share thoughts and feelings. If your partner goes silent for days without any explanation, it might show they’re not fully committed.
2. Supports Your Dreams
Your forever person is your biggest cheerleader. They support your dreams and aspirations, celebrating your successes and encouraging you during tough times. If your partner shows little interest or discourages your ambitions, they might not be in it for the long haul.
3. Respects Your Boundaries
In a healthy relationship, respecting each other’s boundaries is key. Your partner should honor your comfort zones and not push you beyond what you’re okay with. If they consistently disregard your boundaries, it might indicate they’re not considering your feelings and needs.
Partnerships involve sharing responsibilities. Your forever person steps up and shares the load, whether it’s chores, decision-making, or emotional support. If your partner seems unwilling to contribute equally, it might hint that they’re not envisioning a future of shared responsibilities.
5. Invests in Quality Time
Quality time matters. It’s not just about being physically present, but about being engaged and attentive. If your partner constantly prioritizes everything else over spending meaningful time with you, they might not see the value in nurturing the relationship for the long term.
6. Open and Honest Communication
A forever person values honesty and openness. They listen, share their thoughts, and are willing to discuss difficult topics. If your partner avoids important conversations or seems secretive, it might indicate a lack of openness in the relationship.
7. Shows Empathy and Understanding
In a lasting relationship, it’s important that your partner cares about how you feel and shows real empathy when things are hard for you. If they’re regularly not interested or don’t give you support, they might not be the best match for the future.
8. Respects Your Individual Growth
Someone you’ll be with forever respects how you grow as a person. They cheer you on to become better and back you up as you change. If your partner tries to stop you or feels uneasy about your growth, it might make it hard for the relationship to move forward.
9. Shows Dedication and Consistency
Consistency is key in a forever relationship. Your partner’s actions should match their words consistently. If there’s a lack of commitment or frequent changes in behavior, it might signal uncertainty about a long-term commitment.
Having the same values and similar goals for the future is really important for a relationship that lasts. The person you want to spend your life with should have similar beliefs and want similar things in the future. If there’s a big difference in what you both want, it could make it harder to have a lasting and happy relationship.
Have you noticed key actions that might indicate someone isn’t your forever person? Share your thoughts on these 10 important things in the comments below.
Maybe you want to look at this BEFORE you are married, but I’m sorry, once you are married, you are with your forever person. No one will be perfect in these 10 qualities all the time and that is NOT a reason to separate or to divorce. We live in a “me first”, “throw away” society. Perhaps you can also look at forgiveness as a quality YOU should have if your spouse falters from time to time in these 10 qualities
Can’t agree more with Don Foster’s comment. Absolutely. This article needs to make that clear from the beginning.
It reads to me like they are talking about early on in the relationship…like these would be good guidelines when trying to decide whether you SHOULD marry someone or not…
Well said , let he is without sin cast the first stone
Yes well to end up in a relationship where you have only maybe one of these 10 is very degrading and hurtful. I had no idea wat went on behind my back for many years bc I was blind in love and believed him in everything. I’m such a stupid fool with no one to turn to bc he’s my life.
I’m So sorry for the Betrayal you had to experience. Tears will fall but keep your headup. It was him, you didn’t dothose awful things. I know how badly it sucks to have to NOT be with someone you LOVE be8of som8 THEY did.
Yes u are SUPPOSED to have your forever once married but some people change immediately after marriage and steer abuse and emotional control so I’m sure thousands of people would agree “throwing that away” and regaining their old self worth and respect has actually saved their life.
I just broke up with a man after 4 months, his actions didn’t line up with his words. He wasn’t consistent or committed 2 our relationship. I was treated more like an option verses a priority. He wanted 2 marry me, but didn’t understand going days or a week at a time n not connecting was unacceptable.
I have a boyfriend consistently for 4 years ,but didnt pass all i need from man,his being selfish,only me he wanted to text him everytime.and always neglect his promises.our relationship is like a boat sailing without protecion not to reverse .always quarrel exist.so better stop .i am a woman only for one man.but i think im not fortunate.
I am being divorced after 20 years and I didn’t want to but there was no love 💔 she had 3 other guys that were more important than me. She said I love you too them instead. I was her pay check I gave her and I $100. And I paid for the insurance for the kids and her. And the house.And she said I was the looser.
Hi, thanks for sharing these wonderful and mindful thoughts with everyone!
It helps me a lot to understand what really matters for a relationship to last. I especially agree with consistency. My partner is struggling to stop drinking more than three bottles of beer and of he has had more than three, he becomes quite aggressive. However, he has promised to me that he won’t be drunk any more. I hope he will soon understand what his priorities are and stop this harmful behaviour.