This is how you anticipate a breakup.
No one ever likes being blindsided during a breakup. While it doesn’t mean that you would be free from heartache and disappointment if you are able to expect the breakup; at least you have an opportunity to try to change things, or at the very least, brace yourself for the blow. But when a breakup takes you by surprise, it’s just a lot more painful. On one level, you are completely heartbroken at the idea of having to end a relationship with the person you love most in the world. And on another level, you are completely disappointed in yourself at not being able to do everything in your power to keep everything together. And when you get to see a breakup coming, at least closure won’t be as hard to come by in the long run. You can start finding your way towards closure even when you’re still in the dysfunctional relationship. But if a breakup sneaks up on you, there’s no way for you to brace for it. You will be caught somewhere between denial and devastation; and you won’t really know what to do with yourself.
Of course, there is no denying that it can be difficult to tell if you’re headed for a breakup or not. It’s not like your partner is going to be honest about it. It’s not like they will take the time and effort to ease you into it. If you are completely oblivious, then the breakup is going to catch you by surprise whether you like it or not. That’s why it’s always important for you to maintain a sense of self-awareness in your relationships. You always have to be able to look at your relationships from a clear lens. You can love your partner but you can’t let that love blind you from the reality of the situation. Get rid of those rose-colored glasses so that you can get a more accurate view of how things really are in your relationship with your partner.
And part of it is also being able to know what to look for. You have to know what the signs look like. And well, if you’re really in need of help, then you need to read this article in its entirety. Here are a few signs that your partner is probably going to want to break up with you eventually. And at the end will be a probable solution that you can take to help prevent the breakup from ever happening.
1.tYou get the feeling that things just aren’t right with your partner.
2.tYou lose that sense of consistency and stability in the dynamics of your relationship.
3.tYour partner just stops taking an interest in things that they used to be passionate about.
How do you stop the breakup from happening? It’s time to have the talk.
Okay, so a lot (and maybe even all) of the signs listed on here apply to your relationship. That’s not good. But not all hope is lost. You don’t have to go into panic mode just yet. Just relax and assess the situation. There are still a few things that you can do to try and save your love. You can still keep your relationship together if you play your cards right. You’ve done the first part of it by establishing that something is indeed wrong in the relationship. Awareness is always the first step to solving a problem. And now that you know that your relationship is headed towards the end, it’s time for you to act. How? By facing the problem head on. It’s time for you to have that difficult conversation with your partner. You are going to have to confront them about your fears and insecurities. You are going to have to discuss your apprehensions and worries with them. You are really going to have to get to the nitty gritty aspects of the state of your relationship. This is by no means an easy conversation to have but it’s a necessary one if you really want to save your relationship.
Be inquisitive and try to see things from the perspective of your partner. Try to empathize with them and figure out what you’ve been doing wrong. Be more understanding of their feelings and emotions even though they are hurtful. This conversation isn’t going to be comfortable for either one of you but you need to practice full humility and honesty here. You are going to have to be very vulnerable to one another at this fragile point of your romance. Be more receptive of your partner’s needs and try to bridge whatever gaps have been forming between the two of you. Learn about where you’ve been lacking as a partner and try to come to a compromise on how you can make the relationship a better one in the future if you can just have a chance to prove it.
