So, you’re desperate to win back your ex. Get in line, bud. There are so many people who are in your shoes right now. So at least you can find consolation in the fact that you’re not in this boat alone. There are a million other human beings who are going through the same kinds of struggles that you’re going through at this moment. And the good news for all of you is that there is actually a solution to your problems.
A relationship isn’t always going to turn out the way that you would typically want it to. You aren’t always going to get your desired results in a relationship. You aren’t always going to feel fulfilled and satisfied with how things have turned out. And eventually, you might drift away from one another on both a physical and emotional level. You might break up. There are many things that go into determining why a couple breaks up. Maybe you’re just not communicating with one another effectively. Maybe you’re just not making it a point to really spend time and interact with one another. Maybe somewhere along the line, you just lost touch with one another; you forgot about what brought the two of you together in the first place. And before you know it, you’ve lost one another.
But still, you are unable to find closure. You’re still unwilling to give up on your relationship. You still want to persist in your love. You still want to do everything that you can to make sure that your relationship doesn’t go to waste. However, the odds seem to be stacked against you. You feel lost and you don’t know what to do. You are feeling restless. You feel like you have all the energy in the world to actually try to win your ex back but you just don’t know how to go about it.
Well, if you’re feeling lost, then you’ve definitely come to the right article. If you’re purely interested in trying to give your love another shot, you should know that there’s always a chance to fix things. However, you also need to manage your expectations. Not ALL relationships are meant to last forever. You can only do so much to try to make things work. But at the end of the day, if it’s not meant to be, then it’s not meant to be. Having said that, you shouldn’t take that to mean that you are allowed to give this relationship with a half-assed effort. You should still be willing to give this thing everything that you’ve got. After all, if there’s one thing in this life that is worth fighting for, it’s love. You should always be willing to put yourself out there for love; to put everything on the line for the sake of winning your partner back.
Here are 5 essential steps to actually winning your ex back and giving your love another try.
1. Pick yourself back up again.
You can’t possibly expect to win your ex back if you’re going to approach them from a position of insecurity, weakness, and vulnerability. You have to make sure that you’re okay first. You have to pick yourself up and exude strength in your life. You can’t afford to be looking pathetic in your attempt to rekindle a lost flame.
2. Understand your partner’s complaints and misgivings.
Take some time to really hear out the things that your partner took offense within your relationship. The first step to solving any problem is to acknowledge the fact that there is one. And stay honest and true with yourself. Know that you aren’t perfect and that there is always something that you can fix or improve on. Try to hear your partner’s perspective on how things went wrong in your relationship.
3. Fix everything that you can fix.
And once you gain a better understanding of the problems in the relationship, it’s now time for you to actually make an effort to fix these problems. Change the things that you are capable of changing. Really try your best to prove to your partner that you’re not the same person that they broke up with. You need to convince them that you’ve grown somehow.
4. Understand that there is no going back to who you once were as a couple.
Accept the fact that you’re never going to be the couple you once were. And you can’t aspire for that either. You need to aspire to be better. You need to work on forming a new relationship; one that is actually built to last.
5. Be strong.
Always try to be strong whenever you are trying to win your ex back. You are going to be forced to confront a lot of difficult situations. You are going to be saddled with so many challenges and problems. The path that has been laid out for you is not an easy one. However, it’s definitely worth traversing. This is a challenge that is worth accepting.