Marriages aren’t always built to last. The divorce statistics in the modern world are incredibly alarming. It’s as if couples are more likely to breakup than actually stay together forever. A lot of it has to do with the fact that so many people underestimate just how difficult it is to really sustain a marriage. They don’t prepare themselves enough to fight for their love; to fight for the relationships that they’re in. And it’s true: falling in love can seem like the easiest and simplest thing in the world. But sustaining a love with someone is a completely different story. And the best and strongest couples never underestimate the mountain that they have to climb together in a romance.
A long-term relationship is always going to be composed of a series of stages. First, a couple is going to meet and develop a kind of attraction for one another. And if they’re both willing, they take a chance on one another. They get to know each other on a very intimate level until they are comfortable enough to actually commit to being in a relationship. And then, the honeymoon period of a relationship starts. Everything is so thrilling and exciting – until things start to stabilize for a bit. Then couples will be faced with a new challenge:
one that involves them having to build on the love and intimacy that they established with one another when they first got together. And if couples are lucky enough to make it past this stage, then some of them will eventually decide to take things to the next level. They might want to get married and start a family together. And maybe you’re past this phase with your husband. You’ve both gotten married and you managed to renew that honeymoon period after you tied the knot. But then, things started get real in your relationship. The problems in your marriage started to surface, and it really took a tool on your romance.
You tried your best to make things work; but it seems that no matter how hard you try, you feel your husband slipping further and further away from you. You are afraid that this might lead to a divorce. You are scared that somehow, your marriage is screwed and you’re headed for an eventual heartbreak. But you don’t want to give up just yet. You don’t want to give up on your relationship. You don’t want to give up on your partner. You don’t want to give up on the love that you have for one another – however fleeting it is. Fortunately for you, the good news is that it’s never over until it’s over. And a relationship never really ends until both of you decide so.
The ultimate decision to call it quits still relies on the two of you. And if you’re both still willing to make things work, you are always giving yourselves a shot. However, the willingness to make things work and the actual efforts that are involved in making things work are completely different stories. Yes, you want to make sure that you are giving yourselves the best shot at saving your marriage; but you might not exactly be equipped with the know-how to do so.
That’s what this article is for. If you’re feeling lost and hopeless in your marriage, then don’t panic just yet. Make sure to keep in mind the things that are listed here. Give them a try. And see if your marriage is still actually salvageable.
1. Go on an adventure with one another.
Put yourselves outside of your comfort zone as a couple. When you are forced to confront situations that you’re not used to facing, then you get a chance to reestablish the camaraderie you have as a couple.
2. Take up a new hobby together.
One of the best ways to really bond as a couple is to take up a new hobby together. It will give you a chance to really spend time with one another; and you’re both growing in the process.
3. Go back to the roots of your relationship.
Remind yourselves of why you fell in love in the first place. Go back to the foundations of your relationship. Sometimes, you have to look back at where you’ve been so that you get a better sense of where you’re going.
4. Allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Don’t be cold. Don’t be distant. Bridge that gap by opening yourself up. Allow yourself to get vulnerable. Allow yourself to be more open.
Now these tips may not necessarily guarantee that you will be able to save your marriage. But at the very least, you are giving yourselves a shot at making things work. And the more you devote yourselves to making things work, then the bigger the chances that your marriage won’t actually end up in divorce.