If you’re surrounded by people who just don’t understand your depression, all I can say is ‘I’m sorry, I’ve been there and I’m still struggling with it, but you NEED to stop hiding your depression if you want your life back. Surround yourself with people who support you and kick those out who think it’s a joke and those who think it’s “just a phase”. Depression is no joke, it’s one of the hardest things to be at war with your own mind every single day. There are millions of people who suffer from depression. You’re not alone. Don’t give up. And stop hiding.’
One of the several reasons why people around us fail to detect our depressed state of mind is how we hide it from them. Due to some reasons, we don’t feel comfortable telling people about how we feel; the fear of being judged and misunderstood stops us from sharing our feelings of depression so we try to conceal them in different ways.
1. You Lie:
When people ask why you look like shit, you tell them that you are having a bad hair day or it is just your rough skin these days. You lie to people when you feel like they might discover what is going on inside you.
2. You Make Jokes:
The most common and effective way of hiding pain is making fun of it. You use it as your defense; you make self-deprecating jokes and make fun of how you are sick of life. People fail to see the seriousness behind those jokes.
3. You Find Other Reasons:
What can possibly make you so hopelessly and numbly sad? Maybe you are just bored and need attention. That is what you tell yourself. You lie to yourself first to lie to the people around you. You deny your mental condition to save the trouble of being judged.
4. You Give Very Small Hints:
You do try to give subtle hints to people; you share posts about nihilism and heartbreak waiting for someone to message you and ask if you are okay. You listen to calming music all the time as if to help yourself and you harm yourself here and there hoping someone would ask if you did it on purpose.