Cheating is a terrible and traumatizing experience to go through. We live in a world where it’s sadly a common occurrence, regardless of how much it hurts. Today’s story is about a husband who divorced his wife and left her for his mistress. His parents supported his wife, removed him from their will, gave his wife & baby everything – parents of the year!
The Story
A person on Reddit, AccAltD3099, posted their son’s story. They said:
“My son (24) mistreated and eventaully cheated on his now ex wife while she was 3 months post-partum.”
“He is leaving town to go be with the other woman and seemingly has no regrets. both me and his dad are ashamed seeing how our daughter in law is struggling to cope with everything happening in her life, while trying to care for a new baby.”
“We decided to cut him off of the will and put everything we planned to give him towards our daughter in law and our grandbaby. My son heard about this arrangement from his sister and is going on a campaign to guilt and shame me and my husband for the decision we’ve made.”
“Sadly, many family members are taking his side and calling my daughter in law now ‘an outsider’ or ‘not family’ saying we’re making a mistake that will cost us our son. She is aware of the negativity around her, but she has nowhere else to go.”
“My husband and I took her and the baby in for now.”
“We are getting heat and criticism and it’s bothersome and exhausting, but we’re standing our ground because we feel like it’s only fair to make sure our grandbaby and his mother get a stable life after what my son did to them.”
After receiving a lot of supportive responses, they updated their post to give more context:
“UPDATE: Often times having disagreements with family can be very confusing and conflicting but I look at how confident and determind my husband is to support and continue to support and provide for our daughter in law makes me more confident in my stance as well.”
“As a mother, It’s really hard for me to witness all of this and despite the fact that he’s my son and yes he had been going through some rough times, I couldn’t stand away and watch.”
“Also as a mother if I had something similar done to me, I’d absolutely want to see my inlaws and family standing behind me as a support. I can only imagine how my daughter in law is feeling right now.”
“Especially with everyone else showing hate towards her and accusing her of turning us against our son, We can not control how others act or how life is but I’m glad that I did right by my daughter in law and my grandbaby. That is all.”
The Parents Received Massive Support from Reddit
People from all over Reddit praised these parents for standing with their daughter-in-law and supporting her through this traumatizing situation. Here are some of the top comments:
moonshinedegreaser wrote:
“Seems like he has everything worked out. Why does he need anything from you guys?”
vengi15 said:
“I have the utmost respect for you op. Just because your son divorced his wife doesn’t mean she is not family. People get to choose their family and you were gracious enough to take her in. Your son is absolutely mad because of his own actions. He can’t take any responsibility for them. It doesn’t matter what other people say or what he’s telling them. It only matters what you want to do for your daughter-in-law and your grandson. Other people’s opinions don’t matter. Right now it probably hurts so much because yes it was your son but when your kids do something wrong sometimes you have to call them out. She’s probably very grateful for everything that you’ve done for her.”
“This is your choice and those who have a problem with it can stay out! It’s your decision and you don’t have to justify it to anyone even your son.”
Outrageous-Yogurt-80 wrote:
“I am so happy you’re doing this for her and your grandbaby. The family members turning their backs don’t deserve to be in your life either.”
Resagarden commented:
“I’m proud of you for putting an innocent baby and its mother first in this instead of doing the “my son can do no wrong” bs. Your money belongs to you and you can do as you please with it, it doesn’t belong to your son. Your son decided to be a bad father and abandon your grandbaby. You decided to help and I think that’s wonderful. Your son is an adult and can make his own way in the world.”
This post has over 9.9k comments, read them on Reddit here.
What’s Your Take?
What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your take in the comments below!
Source: Reddit
He’ll eventually dump the mistress too. In the meantime, the new mom and baby will get the help and support they need. Grandma and grandpa may eventually forgive their son, but for now they are absolutely doing the right thing.
That is FAIR and JUST. How I wish there could be more people like you. If that was my MIL, she’d be celebrating and telling people I deserve it. Most in-laws are toxic just like mine. They think their families are perfect and like blaming people for their bs.
I have been in this same situation. My oldest son’s father had left me the day after we came home from the hospital. His parents never once offered to take us in, or help us out. It was such a struggle, I went on welfare. It would have had positive impact on my son in the beginning of his life rather than the struggle he had to witness instead with me working two jobs and multiple husbands.
When I two months pregnant with our baby girl and our son was not even two years old yet . He left me for another woman and my in-laws stood by my side helping me . We have since divorced but they have always treated me like family . So don’t worry about other people think just worry about that baby he is all that matters .
You both have a very loving heart and yes you did the right thing.
Your daughter in-law and grandkid are blessed to have loving and supportive in-laws like you both.
If only all parents of sons who leave their wife’s for mistrrss had a heart and a bold stand like you both..
It’s togh with all the criticism from family but when you know you did the right thing is all that matters.
God’s blessings be upon you and your family 🙏
If he left his wife and child he could just as easily left his parents when they get old.
My in. Laws are family to me 46 years after the divorce.
My ex was a murderer..
Tried to have me killed
Everything has it’s core reason for happening. Did he just wake up n left.
Has anyone tried to get his side of the story before judging? I’m a woman but sometimes, Women have a tendency of mistreating their partners and get away with it because everyone thinks women are vulnerable but what happens in some relationships is men are abused.
Can someone just leave the mother of his child for just a mistress? I think thats where he found love and respect and appreciation,Thats why he chose the mistress over the wife.
How did he marry the wife? By the look of things,Could be he never wanted to marry her but because his parents liked the wife he did what he thought was best for everyone but then realized he’s not happy.
For any reason, i would not choose anyone’s child over mine. Yes, I would support my grand child, but I would not give somebody’s child my child’s inheritance while my child is still alive. Regardless!
Been down this road but my children were in Junior High. Worked 7days a week to support my children and my X was a banker plus an alcoholic and womanizer. No contact with my inlaws and they never asked about their ONLY grandchildren. This is a lovely story and these parents did the right thing.
This is a beautiful response of love and support. Massive respect to 2 people who showed that cheating should not be accepted. Very jealous of this lucky lady and baby
Sounds like your son needs to own up to his responsibilities. You took on your kids responsibility and people want to be upset at you for it? No way! I think it is a wonderful thing you did by taking them in. And she is the mother of your grandchild. So I would say that makes her family. The mistress will probably leave once she finds out all his money is going toward alimony and child support. So I don’t think the fun will last too long for your son. Lol. I think what you guys have done is an awesome thing! Don’t let the negativity get to you
God Bless the grandparents….so many turn on the mother and child based on the sons wrong. For once….we see people who care and love the ex-daughter in law and is helping her and the grand baby through a different time…….
Him running out on his child like that, he’s a coward. Oh boo-hoo they were having a hard time after the baby was born, ever hear of post party’s depression you idiot?! They are better without the piece of crap being around. The child will have a father figure in its grandfather, showing them what A REAL MAN IS.
Partum not party
I find no fault in what they did. I would have done the same. Just because their son did wrong does not mean the parents have to follow their son’s poor example when they can set a better one, especially for their grandson because that is who is important. Cudos to the parents for standing their ground. Correct the entitlement.
Kudos to the grandparents. She will always be family as the mother of your grandchild. It takes love a courage to do the right thing. (A shame the son and others did not embrace that lesson.) God bless you!
Very seldom ppl do the right thing, u guys are doing the right thing, ppl can say many things, but ur daughter in law, has jus had a baby, hes done emotional damage to her, that innocent child is ur blood, God will bless u guys immensly, that baby will have a solid and good home growing up, secure and very safe, ur daughter in law is blessed to have in laws like irl, stay blessed, and God be with you
I think that they are upstanding people for doing what is right, regardless of who does or doesn’t support their decision. I was once a young inexperienced young mother & my child’s fathers family never even met our daughter. I remarried & my husband adopted my daughter but it still hurt my child that she never met the other side of her family. She is grown now & I can honestly say that I did a good job raising her on my own
My in-laws took me and the grandkids in after their son cheated also!!! I will forever be nothing but great fun and remember their love he’s gone now but she is not and my life has greatly improved so I do as much for her as I can