Real intimacy – the kind that builds healthy and happy relationships that last for lifetimes – is not really just about you being able to share your body with someone else. It’s not just about you having some kind of physical chemistry with another person in the bedroom. It goes so much deeper than that. Real intimacy is when you are actually able to share your soul with another person. It’s when two lives intertwine to form a single entity. Real intimacy is when two people are doing whatever it takes to bridge the gaps between them.
It’s when two individuals are working very hard to get closer to one another where real intimacy is manifested in a relationship. It’s when two souls come together and lay it all out there. They bare themselves to one another in complete trust and solidarity. They respect one another enough to take care of each other and to never act in betrayal. Real intimacy is having two people just be completely open and vulnerable towards one another because they both know that they aren’t going to get hurt as a result of it. They know that getting closer means having to take a few risks. But these are risks that they are always going to be willing to take.
It can be quite easy to find someone who you can be physically attracted to; someone you can share a bed with. It’s easy to find someone who you can make love with; someone who is going to hug you, kiss you and cuddle you late at night when you’re feeling cold and lonely. It can be easy for you to find a person who is constantly craving for your physical touch; someone who just always wants to be around you in a physical capacity. These are the kinds of people who find immense pleasure and joy in being able to come into physical contact with you – whether it be in the form of a kiss, a hug, a caress, or whatever.
But I’m different. I don’t want what’s easy. I want what’s real. I want REAL intimacy. I’m not interested in just finding someone I can lay in bed with and have sex all the time with. I’m not looking to find a lover with whom I can make love for countless hours on end. Sure, those things are great but I definitely want something more. I want to be with someone with whom I can share more than just my body. I want someone who I can really connect with on an emotional level – where the real intimacy of a human being lies. I want to be able to open my heart up to someone and not have it crushed or taken away from me.
I want to fall in love with my best friend.
I want to be able to fall in love with someone who I can just cry in front of whenever I’m feeling particularly sad and vulnerable. I want to be able to fall in love with someone who still thinks that I’m attractive even when I’m being at my worst; even when I’m being very weak. I want to be able to fall in love with someone who is going to love me even when I’m at my lowest in life; even when I’m doing everything to push that person away. I want to fall in love with someone who just gets me even when I don’t get myself sometimes. I want to fall in love with someone who just understands me even before I talk about how I really feel.
I want to fall in love with someone who I can go on grand adventures with. This person doesn’t have to be put together. This person doesn’t have to be perfect. I want to fall in love with someone I can really grow and develop with. This should be a person I can explore various parts of the world with. I want to fall in love with someone who is constantly inspiring me to be a better person; someone who is always pushing me towards where I need to be and towards what I need to be doing. I want to fall in love with someone who gives me a sense of safety and security; someone I can always rely on to be there for me even when I least expect it.
I want to fall in love with someone who makes me feel like I’m home whenever we’re together. I want to fall in love with someone who always makes sure that I feel comfortable and safe; someone who always puts my needs above anything else in life. I want to fall in love with my best friend because that’s the person I want to be growing old with.