This is the truth: when you end up in a relationship with someone, you are going to have to make a few compromises.
Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean that you have to be sad about it. You actually deserve to find happiness when you’re alone. You don’t have to feel lonely just because you’re by yourself. You don’t have to be lonesome just because you’re single. I genuinely hope that you find happiness and fulfilment even when you have no one else to share it with. At the end of the day, you can only ever really rely on yourself anyway. Regardless of whether you’re in a relationship or not, you really have to learn to just be content with being on your own. You have to be able to thrive in it. You have to be able to find joy in it. You have to be able to relish in it. It’s not something that you should be keeping your head down for. You can hold your chin up high even though you’re single. You can still be proud of yourself even if you’re not in a relationship with anyone. You can still have a life that’s worth living even though you’re single.
Just because you have remained single for the longest time doesn’t mean that you are a lesser human. That doesn’t mean that you are an outcast. That doesn’t mean that you have a more pathetic lifestyle relative that of others. You’re just different, but different doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. You can’t allow the chatter to eat away at your insides. You can’t let all of the negative energy penetrate your system. You shouldn’t let the negative opinions of others affect you too much. You are still the owner of your life. You still deserve to see yourself as a remarkable human being. They say that you’re too intolerable. They say that you’re unlikeable. They say that you’re unlovable and that you are never going to be able to land yourself a long-term relationship. But those are all lies. The real truth is that you are just the type of person who is incredibly comfortable in your own skin. You are someone who doesn’t want to rush into a relationship just for the sake of escaping the single life. Your sense of self-worth isn’t tied into whether you’re in a relationship or not. Your sense of happiness doesn’t depend on having a partner in life. You generate your own happiness. You hold yourself to your own standards and no one else’s. You know the truth of your life and you don’t care about the lies of other people.
As you get on in life, I hope that you someday learn that you can still be productive in your loneliness. I hope you discover that you still have a life that can leave a substantial imprint on this world just as long as you believe in yourself. I hope that you can learn to accept that being alone isn’t something to be sad about. In fact, I hope you learn that being single is something that you can be happy about. I hope that you really find joy in your independence. I hope that you become thankful for your strength. I hope that you end up grateful for the freedom that your singlehood offers you. I hope that you find the thrill and excitement in being able to be your own person outside of a relationship. There is a substantial difference between being single and being lonely. You can be single without being lonely. I hope that you take your single life and you use it as an opportunity for you to grow and develop as an individual. I hope that you never grow content with being where and who you are. I hope that you find the relentless inspiration and motivation to just go after the things that are closest to your heart even when you don’t have a special someone standing at your side as you go through your journey. I hope that you become proud of yourself that you take on the challenges of life on your own without ever having to rely on other people.
This is the truth: when you end up in a relationship with someone, you are going to have to make a few compromises. You are going to have to make a few sacrifices. Your life is no longer entirely your own. You can still maintain your independence, but you are going to have to give up some of it. You won’t even realize it. You become a willing participant whether consciously or not.
So don’t be sad that you’re single. Be happy that you’re not forced into having to give up your sense of self just yet. When you’re single, you’re given the opportunity that most other people tend to take for granted. You get to discover who you are and fall in love with what you find.