I am divorced. Yes. I wasn’t able to make my marriage work. I had to learn the hard way that marriages aren’t always going to be a walk in the park. I had to learn the hard way that just because two people love one another doesn’t mean that they’re automatically able to make things work. It’s not that my love for my partner wasn’t true.
I loved my husband very much. And he loved me. In fact, when we first got married, I felt like there were no limits to our love. I felt like nothing could stop us as a couple. I knew deep in my heart that this was the man I would be spending the rest of my life with. But little did I know that life had different plans for me.
The thing you have to know about marriage is that it’s different from being in a regular relationship. There are certain expectations and responsibilities that come from being married to someone. And because of that, there can be added pressure in a relationship as well. And a lot of times, that pressure can actually destroy a relationship no matter how pure the love might be. You have to know that love isn’t always going to serve as a guarantee.
Love isn’t really something that you can just bank on by itself. There are many facets to a relationship. And there is a myriad of variables that you need to be taking into consideration if you truly want it to work. The truth is that even though you love one another, the odds are still stacked against you.
However, you shouldn’t take that to mean that you shouldn’t be wasting your time with love. Love is something that you should ALWAYS be willing to take a chance on. Love is always something that is worth fighting for. You just have to make sure that you prepare yourself for the tough road ahead. Because at the end of the day, love is going to require you to fight for it. And it’s not just about fighting hard for it, it’s about fighting the right way. You need to know how to conduct yourself in the relationship well. And if you need guidance on that front, then this is the article for you.
1. You can’t expect any dramatic personality changes anymore.
The person you married is likely going to be the person you spend the rest of your life with. So, if you’re still clinging to the hopes that your partner is going to change eventually, then you’re terribly mistaken.
2. It takes two people to meet one another halfway.
Compromise is essential when it comes to coexistence. And it’s not enough that only one of you shows a willingness to compromise all of the time. The both of you need to always meet each other halfway.
3. Don’t feel the need to be so independent all of the time.
Let your partner love you. Stop pressuring yourself to be so independent all of the time. The point of being in a relationship is having someone who you know is always going to have your back. And you should know that your partner will want to feel needed every once in a while.
4. Silence is rarely ever the best course of action that you can take.
Don’t run away from arguments. Speak your mind. Don’t stay quiet. Don’t keep your feelings bottled up inside. The only way that the two of you are ever going to get intimate with one another is if you stay open.
5. Make sure to always keep your feelings in check.
Be rational. You are going to get emotional a lot in your relationships and that’s okay. Just make sure that you don’t let your intense feelings drive you into making the wrong choices in your relationship.
6. There is no such thing as loving a person too much
Never be withholding of your love. There is never enough love to go around so just keep on expressing your love to your partner.
The truth is that I don’t really have any regrets for anything that has happened to me. In fact, I’m thankful for having gone through that failed marriage. It gave me valuable life lessons that I badly needed to learn for myself. And I do believe that I am not the only one to blame here.
I know that I had my faults but also, the entire situation was beyond my control. I am now a more experienced, wiser, and stronger person because of everything that has taken place. Going through that divorce forced me to confront truths about myself that I never would have entertained otherwise.
And hopefully, if you are reading this, you are gaining the wisdom that will keep you from getting into a position as rough as this.