There are so many men out there who are known to be players. They are called that because they have a tendency to approach love and relationships like a game. They’re playing you and whoever else they are going to want to victimize. They are quick to put the moves on you just to get you to feel or act a certain way. And once they’re done with you, they will leave you hanging. They treat the act of picking up girls like some kind of sport wherein they can rack up points. And it’s unfortunate for girls like you who only ever want to pursue true and genuine love. It can be really difficult to find out whether a guy is being sincere with you or not.
But it’s not totally impossible to weed out the bad guys from the good ones. You just need to make sure that you stay perceptive enough to notice them. If you find that your man is guilty of a lot of the things that are listed here, then you might want to rethink being with someone like him. If he does these 10 things in your relationship, then he’s only playing with your emotions.
1. He gives you a lot of ironic or satirical compliments.
He gives you compliments, but he does so in a way that is meant to make you question it. He is essentially making fun of you but he’s trying to mask it so that you don’t really know what he’s doing. He’s belittling you. And he’s trying to puzzle you about it. He wants you to crave for is approval.
2. He asserts his dominance over you.
He wants you to feel like he is the more dominant being. He doesn’t want to give you a chance to realize your power at all. This is a common technique that a lot of abusers and manipulators use to actually make you think that you have no sense of choice in your relationship at all.
3. He doesn’t really pay attention to your opinions and feelings.
You know that he’s only playing with you if he doesn’t show a genuine concern for your feelings and opinions. If a guy were truly interested in you, he would always show some concern over what you think and how you feel.
4. You can tell that everything he tells you has been rehearsed and practised.
You somehow get the sense that the stuff that he tells you has all been rehearsed and practised before. He delivers all his lines as if he were a trained actor. And that’s all because he has tried it on other girls in the past.
5. He is emotionally unavailable to you.
Okay. Not all men are going to be so open about their feelings and emotions. But if he genuinely wants to be in a serious relationship with you, then he’s going to have to open up to you eventually. A reluctance to do so would be a very big red flag.
6. He refuses to take no for an answer.
He’s a guy who just refuses to take no for an answer in your relationship. Whenever you say that you can’t do something for him, he then proceeds to do either one of two things: he makes you feel guilty about it or he finds a way to convince you to do it anyway.
7. He doesn’t really open up much about the details of his life.
You feel like you don’t really know him. You don’t know the man that you’re with. You know what he likes and you know his name. But you don’t really know any of the real stuff. You don’t know much of the stuff that is really worth knowing.
8. He doesn’t like to put a label on your relationship.
You can tell that he really isn’t serious about being with you if he refuses to put a label to your relationship. He doesn’t want to make you feel like this is a serious thing because he wants you to continually work for his validation.
9. He is constantly trying to get you to sleep with him.
This is a big telltale sign that he is definitely just trying to play with you. If he’s constantly asking you to sleep with him, then it’s obvious where his intentions lie. He only really just wants you for your body. He sees you as a sexual object for pleasure.
10. He rushes you through the various stages of your relationship.
He is always pressuring you to move through the various stages in your relationship. This is proof that he isn’t really interested in your feelings at all. He is just purely interested in getting what he wants out of you even if it makes you feel uncomfortable.