You always need to know if the relationship that you’re in is practically doomed. Why? You never want to be wasting your time being with someone with whom you know you’re never going to be able to make things work. You always want to be giving your love and energy to a person and a relationship that has a shot at actually standing the test of time. That’s why whenever you recognize that the relationship that you’re in is heading towards its demise, you might just want to check out early.
Rip off that Band-Aid. It’s always better for you to just call it quits while you’re ahead. Cut your losses. If you notice that these 11 things happen in your relationship, then it’s practically over and you might as well just try to move on.
1. You’re already looking for a replacement.
Obviously, you know that something is wrong if you’re not content with the partner that you have in your relationship. If you’re already looking for a replacement, it means that you’re clearly not happy and you know at the bottom of your heart that this relationship just isn’t built to last.
A relationship that is built on true love would never have two people still trying to keep their options open.
2. Your goals just won’t align.
More than just loving one another, it’s important that you are able to have lives that are compatible with one another’s. You must always make it a point to ensure that your goals, principles, and values align.
And whenever you just aren’t capable of reconciling your two worlds together, then it’s likely that that would generate too much friction in the relationship.
3. You can’t trust one another.
You just can’t seem to bring yourselves to trust one another. The trust in the relationship has either withered or has been completely broken because of a dramatic incident. Whatever the case, it’s virtually impossible for a relationship to last when there is no mutual trust there that can bind two souls together.
If you just can’t bring yourselves to trust in your partner anymore, then you know that the relationship is practically doomed at that point.
4. You have cyclical arguments.
You just find yourselves arguing about the same things over and over again. Any kind of relationship is always going to have a room for arguments and disagreements. That’s normal between two people who spend enough time with each other.
However, it’s different when you’re just virtually incapable of coming to a compromise on these fundamental arguments that you have. It’s unhealthy for a relationship if you keep arguing about the same things over and over again.
5. You have stopped caring about how they feel.
You have stopped caring about how your partner feels. You don’t really give them any kind of attention whatsoever when it comes to their feelings and emotions. You don’t care much about how your actions or words might impact them on an emotional level.
You’re just content with carrying on in your life regardless of how you affect them emotionally. It’s as if you’ve completely uninvested yourself in their mental and emotional state of being.
6. You find yourself feeling easily irritated.
You find yourself getting easily irritated by your partner as of late. You notice that all of the little things that you used to be able to tolerate (or the things that you might have even found cute at one point) are now all things that annoy and pester you.
There is just a general mood of irritability and annoyance in the relationship. You are clearly unhappy with one another and there is very little love and affection left there.
7. You spend more time away from one another than you do together.
You find that you are just spending more and more time away from one another these days. Instead of spending time with each other at home or on dates, you are constantly choosing to prioritize other aspects of life.
In this life, we only ever really give time and energy to the things that mean the most to us. And if you find yourself unwilling to spend more time on the people you love, then perhaps, you don’t really love them as much as you might have initially thought.
8. You’re no longer happy in your relationship.
And ultimately, it’s going to boil down to overall happiness. If you happen to be in a relationship that just doesn’t make you happy, then that relationship isn’t the right one for you.
Yes, you always want to be able to find happiness in your own life. But your relationship should never be serving as a hurdle between you and your pursuit of happiness in life. Your relationship should be enriching your life; it shouldn’t be bringing you down.
What if my ex is avoiding me? No contact what so ever. And she has my 3 year old son.
You go to your county domestic relations office and you file for visitation I wish you well.
cause that’s the only way she can hurt you,,, ignore her for now, get your life together, build up some finances and character, take her to court get joint custody
We are in a long term distance relationship and visit each other every other weekend. This last time she stated she wanted to take 7 weeks to work on her weight problem. I just don’t know how to deal with this.
Its 7 weeks, in terms of a lifetime future, less than 1% of your time together. Learn some patience, you need a hobby or a pet perhaps
My wife have cheated me have new boyfriend we have 3 kids where 20 years in marriage but every Tuesday to Friday she in the house and want to have sex with me what will I do help please
runaway
may be you are denying her sex in a way she likes, communicate ask her how she likes it and tell her how you do, otherwise you need to know your lucky if she still desires you physically to do her every other day of the week, infact i would guess if you do she wouldn’t have the energy to go out during the weekend… but incase your too hurt take some time alone to reflect
I don’t get this! if she has a new boyfriend what is she doing in my house every Tuesday to Friday she can see the kids but maybe in the park or mall
get yourself a girl to live in even a caregiver for your kids and be chmy with them
this just might stop her from trying to use you!
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I am 47 (male) single parent (widower since 2018). I have 3 children aged 24, 16 & 11. I am currently in a relationship with a single mom with children aged 18 and 16.
Our relationship of 5 years has suddenly spiralled downwards since Jan 2024. Neither of us has spoken nor DM each other after a heated exchange via WhatsApp.
After a month of silence and hurt, I reconsidered and took the first step to apologise and proposed amends and reconciliation via sms/WhatsApp to no avail unfortunately .
Since then there has been zero contact between us.
I still want to fix us, for us and for the children too. I want to take the 2nd step to meet up in person but am not sure how she will take this.
I miss her so dearly and I know I am still very much in love with her.
I still maintain contact with her children. I am not certain if she does the same.
How how can take this forward?
Remove yourself from this lonely miserable ‘relationship’ … hard to hear but she doesn’t seem to care, your ‘forever love’ will be out there somewhere waiting, clear this negativity and let the good vibes in, good luck 🙂
same I been through all this with my ex-wife all 6 points all start with her infinity no trust and the rest just come like automatically lol her replacement lasted 5mins hahhah
my partner of 5 years always rurns his back on me when we go to bed and when l ask him about getting married he slways changes the subject
My sympathies about your partners reaction but I can empathise. I decided very early in life that marriage felt like a chain around my neck and wasn’t necessary to make me feel secure in a relationship. Hey Im not going anywhere, Im a contented sort of individual. Its primarily for the benefit of children nowadays to guarantee some stability and isn’t necessary at all in a childless relationship
Life is short, think and do positive with full heart. Make 2,4,7 babies and grow up together, have so much to do, learn. Don’t think negative or make life turn complicated, life is short.
I am 44 years old and have two children. Someone I married for the second time. She is not very faithful. I find her lying a lot with her words. Now we are separated, and I only see her once a week for sex. She is not for marriage. She doesn’t help me at home. And she wants to live with me. What do you advise me.
You shouldn’t stay with someone who doesn’t respect you. That would be telling your kids that’s okay. Pls don’t be used. Find yourself again, take time out. Love on yourself & the right Lady will come along unexpectedly. Wishing you all the best.
my bf broke up with me on friday due to me callling him a lot on friday while he was with the guys celebrating their certificate, then he complained dat if i have to be with him late at night i will be complaing about being late, then means i have to be with my family not him
I’ve been in relationship from 2013 to 2025 my partner now shows the colour of him,he sometimes tells me he is tired during bedtimes,he now lack of qiving me money,he always, rapid the passed,is he loves me?
No
What would you advise me to do as amarried man, who found out his wife was having an affair with concrete evidence and she denied, and said she’s still interested in the marriage…yet they haven’t had sex in 2 years.
Am Inlove with my new wife. we have just 5 months in this relationship but I’ve clearly seen and been told by her that she can never invest anything of hers financially with me. by the way I didn’t ask her to. and I have invested alot in her. I even brought her from my country to the country I work. I pay for everything and I even searched for her a job . But on the pay day it’s the day she told me all this. But am glad.