If you are going to be with her, then that means that you really need to love her. You really need to be true with your feelings with her. You always have to be sincere with your love for her. Because if it’s anything less than true love, then there would be no reason for you to be wasting your time on her at all.
But alas, we are all only human. We all have changeable and dynamic personalities. We can have very different feelings from one moment to the next. And you may think that you love her – but is that really the right way to go about it? Should love be something that is inconsistent? Should love be something that is so unstable? Is it really okay for you to be loving her in a way that is dependent on the mood you are in?
You have to know that love alone is not going to be enough to ensure the health and strength of your relationship. You might think that you are genuinely in love with her but you might also be bringing a lot of toxicity and unhealthiness into your relationship. You might slowly be breaking her without even knowing it. You should always love a woman in the manner in which she deserves to be loved.
You should always be deathly appreciative of the value that she adds to your life by being in a relationship with you. You should always be willing to show her the gratitude and appreciation that she is entitled to in your relationship. Whenever you feel like your love is wavering, you have to think back to the time you first fell in love with her. You have to try to remember all of those feelings that you had at the time. You need to try and reminisce about how at one point in your life, she was everything you could have ever wanted.
You know that this girl is special and that there is something about her that you will never find in another woman. It might be something with the way that she looks. It might be the tone of her voice. It may be a particular personality trait or two. It might even be the fact that she cares for you and how she treats you with genuine kindness and respect. You just know at the end of the day that there is something special about her. There’s something there that is worth holding on to. There is something there that is always worth fighting for.
The fact that she was everything you could have ever wanted in a woman was what you fell in love with in the first place. And all she ever really asks from you in return is that you love her in the way that she deserves to be loved. That’s all you really need to do to keep this wonderful, amazing, brilliant, talented, fabulous, and beautiful woman in your life. You just have to love her even when she’s being difficult to love. You have to love her even when it’s inconvenient for her to do so. You have to love her even when she’s being weak – especially when she’s being weak.
You have to love her as if the whole world depended on you to love her. And it’s not enough that you just love her. You have to love her the right way. You have to CHOOSE to love her every single day that you’re together. You can’t just love her because you think that it’s your duty to do so. You can’t just love her because it is what you feel would be the right thing to do. You can’t just love her because you think that you don’t really have any other choice.
Because you do have another choice. You have other options. But you don’t entertain any of them. You choose her. You choose to love her. And you are bold with that choice. You own up to it. You don’t falter with your conviction. You choose to love her and you are unapologetic about it. THAT is the way that you should really be loving her.
Because otherwise, you would just break her. It would break her to know that you’re merely in the relationship with her for purely selfish reasons. It would break her to know that you’re just staying with her because it would be too inconvenient to just end things with her. It would break her to know that you love her but not enough to actually treat her right. It would break her to know that you love her but you don’t do anything to prove your love for her.
Love her the way that she deserves – with all of your heart and soul.
