Does the idea of “soulmates” really exist in this life? Is there really that one person roaming his world who you’re just destined to spend the rest of your life with? Well, if you’re like most other people in this world, you believe in the idea of having “the one”. You might believe that your destiny is already written out for you. You might think that your love story has already been planned out and it’s just a matter of execution on your part at this point. A recent survey has shown that a vast majority of adults in this world believe that they do have “soulmates”. That same study confirmed that you could either be a boy or a girl. Both genders are equally enamored by the idea of finding “the one” they’re meant to be with forever.
Of course, it can be very comforting to know that your soulmate is out there just waiting for you to arrive; and that you’re just going to have to find them so that you can find happiness together. However, there isn’t really any scientific evidence or proof that can back up this evidence of yours. And if you really want to take a more realistic view on things, it would be rather limiting and close-minded for you to believe that there is only ONE person out there who is meant for you; one person who you can envision yourself spending the rest of your life with. There are so many people living on this earth; and if it’s really true that you’re only meant to be with one out of the billions, then your chances of finding this person aren’t very good. But of course, it’s always nice to know if you’re with someone who you have a great chemistry with; someone you are really compatible with.
And if you really want to be able to test your chemistry and compatibility with a person, then you need to make sure that the following things are present in your relationship. If not, then it’s likely that the two of you just aren’t meant to be together.
1. Feel safe and secure in your relationship.
Your relationship should be a safe haven for you. It should help heal all of the broken parts of you. A relationship should never be feeding into your fears and insecurities. That’s why you know that things just aren’t going to work out for either of you if there is no security in your relationship. It proves that there is dysfunction in your romance.
2. Have fun together as a couple.
At the end of the day, if you’re not having fun, then it’s not worth it. That’s why you should always make sure that you are having fun with one another. If you’re not having fun, then it shows that your relationship just isn’t a right fit. A relationship that doesn’t know how to have fun is one that can’t be sustained for the long-term.
3. Go shopping for one another.
You should always be able to go shopping WITH one another and FOR each other. You have to be able to go grocery shopping together to buy things for the house. Even if something as simple as this is impossible for the two of you, then you know that you have some serious issues that you need to be addressing as a couple.
4. Be completely honest with one another.
You always need to be honest with one another in your relationship. And you always have to make it a point to be honest and transparent with one another. If you both feel like there are certain aspects of your individual lives that you need to hide, then you know that you aren’t in an ideal relationship at all.
5. Sit in perfect silence without feeling awkward.
You don’t always have to be doing something exciting to have fun. You don’t always have to be going to lavish places to enjoy each other’s company. You should still be able to enjoy each other’s presence even if you’re just lounging around at home and sitting in silence with one another.
6. Give each other space and privacy.
Just because you get into a relationship doesn’t mean that you are going to give up your sense of individuality. You should both still set boundaries for one another. You should both still be able to be your own persons. And if you are unable to respect each other’s individuality and privacy, then you are in a toxic relationship that isn’t built to last.
7. Support each other’s goals and dreams.
A relationship should never serve as some kind of roadblock to any person’s dreams. If you feel like your relationship is forcing you to give up everything that you want for yourself, then it’s counterproductive to what a relationship should really be like.
8. Communicate effectively with one another.
As a couple, you always need a strong communication game going on if you want to make sure that your relationship is going to last. You are never going to be able to make things work if you don’t know how to express yourselves to one another. You always need to feel safe to talk to one another about absolutely anything. And you need to be able to listen to each other as well.