If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. If They Come Back, They’re Yours. If They Don’t, They Never Were.

Wiser words have never been spoken.

We were always taught from the beginning to fight for the things that we want most in this world -I including love. We were always told that we have to pursue the things that we think we deserve. We were always taught that nothing is ever going to be handed to us on a silver platter and that nothing in this world is free. They say that the best things in life are free, but that’s not true. The things that are worth having in life will never come easily they never come cheap. You always have to pay the price for the most beautiful things that this world will have to offer even love. 

And for the most part, that’s true. Love is never going to be an easy feat. It isn’t just something that will fall into your lap and last until the end of time without much effort. You are going to have to dedicate a lot of your time into making sure a relationship is going to last and even then, it might not be enough. And so maybe that’s why a lot of people still choose to stay in relationships that aren’t right for them. Perhaps that’s why a lot of people will still try to fight for a love that just has not chance of surviving. That may be the reason why a lot of people will force their way into a relationship that just wasn’t meant to be. But it gets to a point wherein forcing the situation will only make things worse. And that’s where most of the trouble lies, really. A lot of people won’t know when to call it quits. A lot of people just don’t know when it’s time to let go. 

This may not be the most popular piece of advice that you’re ever going to hear, but this is a piece of actual truth. If you love someone, let that person go. Yes, you must fight for the love that you think you deserve. But you also need to know your limits. You need to be able to draw that line and make sure that you never cross it. You have to make sure that you know your boundaries and you have to be able to respect the boundaries set by your partner. Remember that if you cross that line, there’s no going back. If you end up suffocating your partner, you risk losing them forever and it will all be because you just refused to let go. It will all be because of your own stubbornness; your unwillingness to just let go. So just learn to let them go. Respect their wishes and acknowledge that they are their own selves and that you have to be able to accept the choices that they decide to make for their own lives. 

For the first part, the uncertainty is going to kill you. But that’s okay. It’s understandable for you to get your hopes up. It’s understandable for you to still believe in your love. But know that you have to take your hope in healthy doses. You can’t let your hopes get up too high because you will only set yourself up for severe disappointment by doing so. Let that person go and maintain the slightest hope that they are going to come back to you. Try to believe that your love is strong enough to overcome whatever challenges time, space, and distance may throw at you. 

And if they choose not to come back to you, then that’s okay. You have to understand that things just aren’t meant to be. And you can be confident in the fact that it wasn’t you who walked away from the relationship. You can be happy about how you gave everything that you had in the relationship and you can be proud of the effort that you made. You can go on in life thinking that you did everything that was expected of you and you don’t have to have any regrets with how you handled the relationship. You took the mature and selfless approach and you can go on with your life being safe in that knowledge; that you made the best out of a losing situation.

But if they choose to come back to you, then they will appreciate you even more for giving them the freedom and space that they needed at a confusing time in their life. They will appreciate you for not suffocating them and clipping their wings even though all they wanted to do was to go on some self explorations. But most importantly, if they come back to you, then you will know for sure that your love is real. You will be confident that your love can really survive time, space, and distance. You will really know that your love is pure.

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