If you have never been a victim of emotional abuse in a relationship, then you should consider yourself lucky.
Remember that abuse can still manifest itself in even the most loving relationships. In fact, a lot of times, it’s the love that a person has for another that causes that individual to be blind to all of the abuses and mistreatments that they are being subjected to. And you should be very careful that you don’t end up as a victim in an abusive relationship. The thing about abuse is that it is rarely ever obvious or blatant. It tends to be something that just flies under the radar unnoticed.
And it’s designed to be that way. An abuser is always going to be so good at being subtle so as to victimize you to the point where you aren’t actually feeling victimized. What a lot of people don’t realize is that abuse isn’t always going to take a physical form. You aren’t going to have physical scars, wounds, or abuses per se; but the damage of abuse can be just as significant if you don’t try to keep yourself guarded.
When you fall in love with a person, you tend to place your trust in that individual. You do this because you know that love and trust should always go hand in hand. But sometimes, when we trust people, we open ourselves up to getting hurt by these people.
And that just comes with the territory. You can’t trust someone without allowing yourself to be vulnerable towards them. However, the trust that you give to a person you love isn’t always going to pay off. A lot of times, you can make the mistake of trusting a potential abuser and you risk inviting a lot of emotional damage and trauma into your life as a result.
So, how do you make sure that you keep yourself protected from emotional abusers? You just have to take note of the signs. The thing about abuse is that the longer you allow yourself to remain a victim of it, the harder it will be for you to get out of it. That’s why you need to consciously fight for your own sense of well-being by staying vigilant. The moment you spot the red flags in your relationship, you need to be able to separate yourself from all of that toxicity. Here are a few signs that you are in a relationship with an emotionally abusive man:
1. He dictates how you should be spending or managing your money.
He feels entitled enough to actually tell you how to spend or save your cash. He feels like he has ownership of your finances just because you are in a relationship together.
2. He pressures you into doing things in the relationship that you’re not ready for.
He doesn’t really care much about your emotional well-being. He willingly pushes you outside of your comfort zone so as long as it suits his own personal desires and needs.
3. He makes you feel so alone and isolated.
He tries to isolate you from other people as much as possible. You just don’t feel any sense of companionship or camaraderie with him. It’s like you feel more alone because you are with him.
4. He blames you for everything bad that happens in the relationship.
He refuses to take ownership of his faults and actions. He refuses to assume accountability in the relationship. If there is something wrong, he always tries to pin the blame on you.
5. He always keeps tabs on your whereabouts because he doesn’t trust you.
It’s one thing for a guy to want to make sure that you’re always safe and secure. But it’s another thing entirely for him to want to keep tabs on you just because he doesn’t trust you.
6. He puts down all of your core beliefs and principles.
He doesn’t really acknowledge the very parts of your personality that make you who you are. He puts down all of your core beliefs and principles because he is only thinking of his own.
7. He doesn’t listen when you want to express yourself.
He doesn’t really make you feel safe to express yourself. He doesn’t give you a safe space to say what you think or how you feel. He is always just shunning you at every turn. He only cares about what he wants to say.
8. He puts you down and he demeans you.
He doesn’t respect who you are as a person. He diminishes your confidence by hurling insults and hurtful comments your way.
9. He walks away from arguments with you.
He really isn’t interested in giving you any sense of closure. He doesn’t want to make you feel like he’s interested in coming to terms on any kind of disagreement that the two of you might have.