Signs of dishonesty.
All relationships are inherently unique and different. And so it can be difficult to point out general guidelines and rules that all couples should abide by. The reason why relationships are so complex and diverse is because the people that compose these relationships in themselves are also very complex and diverse. There are countless complications that could surround a relationship, and it can be very difficult to pinpoint the specifics. It always varies from case to case. But what is about to be discussed here is one very prominent complication in particular: when someone is having second thoughts about a relationship.
It happens fairly often too. You could meet someone. There are a few sparks. You get to know one another and you fall in love. You get into a relationship and things feel like they’re going smoothly. The relationship makes you happy and you think that your partner is feeling fulfilled and happy as well. But as time goes by, you get the sense that something is off. You don’t feel as secure about your place in your partner’s life as you once did. You start to think to yourself that maybe your partner is having second thoughts about being with you. And you’re not in the wrong for having those negative thoughts. It’s a very real possibility and it’s one that you have to address immediately before things get too late.
It’s not even a question of whether your partner still loves you. You can still feel like they love you, but you also know that something is off with how they see you and the entire relationship as a whole. It’s the little things that you might not even be able to put your finger on. But your gut is telling you that something is off and you know that you always have to trust your instincts when it comes to these things. But it all just doesn’t make any sense to you. If your partner still loves you, why would they be having second thoughts about being with you? If your relationship is going well on your end, why wouldn’t it be going well on theirs? Well, these are all very valid questions and you’re the one who has to go looking for the answers.
But you also have to make that distinction between being realistic about your situation and being plain paranoid. You don’t want to be guilty of the latter. If you’re just acting paranoid and insecure for no reason, then your partner might not respond to that very well. You have to be able to assure yourself that your partner is really having second thoughts about being with you before you take action. And if you do find out that your partner is indeed second-guessing your relationship, you don’t have to panic just yet. Your relationship isn’t over. There’s still a chance for the both of you to work things out. Otherwise, they would have already broken up with you by now. You just have to get to the root of the problem and work your way out from the core. To help you figure out if your partner is indeed having second thoughts about you, then you just need to read on until the end of this article:
1. They seem to have their eyes glued on their cellphones whenever they’re with you.
They don’t want you to be able to sense that they’re having second thoughts and so they will look for distractions whenever they’re with you. Rather than addressing the issues head on, they will try to sweep them under a rug and ignore them.
2. They make it seem like their mind is somewhere else whenever they’re with you.
It’s as if their thoughts are always occupied. They are thinking about to many things as a coping mechanism. It’s only because they don’t want to have to deal with the second thoughts that they’re having about the relationship.
3. There has been a substantial drop in your sex life and you know that it isn’t because of you.
Physical intimacy is always important in any modern relationship. And if your levels of physical intimacy have dropped in a substantial level, then that means your relationship is in potential peril.
4. They don’t seem as eager to talk to you anymore.
IF there is a substantial drop in your communication as well, then that’s also a sign that they’re emotionally checking out of the relationship. They stop putting in the effort to really connect with you.
5. They make decisions about their life without consulting or involving you in the process.
They’re trying to test the waters. They want to see if they have what it takes to make it as independent people. They know that something is off with the relationship and so they want to see if they can make decisions without you.
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