If You’re Not Serious About Me, Stop Wasting My Time
If you want to talk to me, then really talk to me.
I’m not the type of person who goes into relationships halfheartedly. Whenever I’m in, you can count on me to be in all the way. If you choose to walk into my life and play the romance card with me, I won’t have a problem with that. However, you have to know that you either have to be all in or it’s nothing at all. I really don’t want to have to waste my time with a person who isn’t serious about me. I don’t have the patience to play these games with anyone. I don’t want to be all in when the person I’m dating still isn’t sure about things.
I am very busy trying to get my life on track, and I only like to give attention to the things that matter most in life. To me, love is one of those things. If I see a chance at love, I will devote a lot of time and commitment to making things work. But I need the same level of commitment from my partner as well. I never give time to things that don’t matter so please just leave if you’re not serious about this.
I’m not in the mood to be part of any casual flings or hook-ups. Call me old-fashioned but that’s just the way it is for me. I’m not really into the whole friends with benefits kind of situation and so you can count me out if that’s what you’re looking for from me. I’m not really a big fan of ambiguity or vagueness within a relationship so come to me only if you’re sure about things.
You have to want to get to know me if you are really serious about falling in love with me. Don’t just look at my face or my body. Don’t just look at what I do for a living. Look at me for who I am. Ask me about my passions. Know my history. Ask me about the things that I love and hate most in this world. Get to know more about my biggest dreams and goals. Know that when you want to get with me, you are inheriting a lot of who I am in the process. If you can’t handle that, then don’t waste my time.
If you want to talk to me, then really talk to me. Stop asking me how I’m feeling or what I’m doing when you text me. Ask me what my plans for the weekend are, and when I tell you that I don’t know, make plans. Stop being so passive about everything and just ask me out. Take that leap. If you’re not going to take a chance on me, then you’re just wasting both of our time.
Really take the time and effort to get to know me face to face. Stop resorting to phone calls, text messages, and online chats. See me. Do it the traditional way. I’m an old soul and I believe in the strength of old love. I’m a real person and I’m not just some idea that you get to come back to whenever you’re bored. If you want to be there for me, then really be there for me.
I know what I want out of life. I know what I want out of relationships. I know what I want from a partner. And what I really want from a partner is someone who knows what they want as well. I really need you to know what you want from me and from a prospective relationship with me. I need you to have a vision for our relationship if you really want to date me. I need to know that you have expectations and I need you to be honest with me about those expectations. I can’t afford to have you walking on eggshells around me. I’m not a mind reader. I need you to open up to me and come clean about your intentions.
One thing that you really have to know about me is that I am a very loyal person. If you manage to earn my trust, then you’ve earned it for life. But I am only loyal and trusting of those who are the same to me. I can’t allow myself to be loyal to you if you’re not going to take me seriously. I will not flirt with you if you are just going to treat me like a game. I am not going to pay you any attention if I know that your intentions aren’t true. I need to know that your heart is in this the same way that mine is going to be.
I know it’s scary. But you should know that it’s scary for me too. And that’s what love is supposed to be. We’re supposed to be able to face our fears together. But if you’re too scared to go all the way with me, then you might as well walk away right now.