We are officially in the last part of 2018. The holiday season is upon you. It’s a time for joy, giving, and laughter. Everyone around you is so caught up with buying presents to make all the people that they love happy.
So many of us are getting lost in all the positive hysteria of welcoming in a new year. And you should be doing the same. You should see the new year as an opportunity for you to turn over a new leaf. It should be a chance for you to start fresh and change the parts of you that you’ve been meaning to work on.
There is this age-old tradition wherein people write down certain promises that they make for themselves that are to be fulfilled in the coming year.
They are called “New Year’s Resolutions” and you should probably be working on yours as well. If you are in the process of thinking about the promises that you should be making for yourself in the coming year, then I would like to make just one simple suggestion:
Learn to let go of all the people who no longer add any value or meaning to your life; the people who are only holding you back from where you need to be and the person you are supposed to become.
Yes, it’s always hard whenever you force yourself to let a person go. It’s never easy when you have to cut someone loose from your life even when you know that they are only holding you back.
You can get accustomed to certain individuals. You can get used to just having them around you. And it’s scary to imagine a world where you might not even know them. But it’s necessary. You have to cut these people out of your life. It might be really difficult for you to do but it’s definitely going to be worth it in the end.
You have got to stop giving your heart to all of the wrong people; the ones who are only going to take you for granted and hurt you. You need to stop wasting your time on the people who don’t really add much value to your life.
You need to stop coming through for people who would never do the same for you. It’s unfair. It’s unjust. And it’s plainly unhealthy. You have to remember that you aren’t a superhero.
The amount of love, energy, and attention that you can give to others is limited even when you believe otherwise. That’s why you always want to save your emotional energy for the people who actually matter. You need to stop prioritizing the people who don’t make you happy.
You need to stop doing the things that hold you back from where you need to be. You need to stop putting yourself in positions that slow you down as you try to push forward. Stop believing that it’s okay for you to be putting your faith and trust in everyone you encounter. That’s not healthy. That’s not safe.
Stop denying yourself the opportunity to be withholding of your love and attention. It’s your right to reserve your love only for those who are actually deserving of it. It’s okay for you to only choose to spend time with the people who bring you fulfillment and enlightenment. It’s okay for you to only come through for the people you know you can always rely on to be there for you as well.
Yes, it’s normal for you to want to feel the love and positive energy of those around you and closest to your heart. It’s normal for you to want to surround yourself with people who genuinely care about your well-being; with people who are genuinely invested in your best interests.
However, you have to know that giving your love, time, attention, and energy to everyone you meet just isn’t the way to go about getting what you want. That can be downright draining and damaging for your soul.
Yes, you can still have a pure and loving heart while being selective of the people you choose to associate yourself with. It’s not about being snobby. It’s not about being unkind. It’s about proper placement.
It’s about being able to put your efforts into the places that you know where they aren’t being wasted. It’s about making sure that you are making the most out of the time and energy that you devote to other people.
It’s about making sure that you maximize whatever emotional resources you have to share with all those around you. It’s about ensuring that you don’t spread yourself too thin to the point that you lose yourself entirely.
So, in this coming year, make sure that you don’t give your heart to those who don’t deserve it. Reserve your love for those who are actually worth keeping.