It’s Okay To Think You’re Difficult To Love

We all have our flaws, no one’s flawless. Love your flaws!

Of course you are going to have your quirks and your oddities. Each and every single one of us is going to have that one thing that is going to distinguish us from everybody else, whether it’s positive or negative. A lot of the time, our quirks and oddities can be downright irritating to other people but we don’t care because it’s part of what makes us who we are. Unless of course you start to get into a relationship with someone you care deeply about. Then you have to start rethinking all of your little quirks and your weird behavior. Then you have to start reflecting on your oddities and what effect they have on your partner. You begin to think more about whether your little quirks are still worth keeping or if you have to start making some adjustments for the sake of the relationship.

You are a unique human being who has very specialized tastes, interests, and feelings. You are very special because of your individuality and you should never ever compromise the things that make up the essential part of your being. However, you also have to be able to examine what effect you are giving off to the people around you. Are you the kind of person whose individuality and uniqueness manages to pique the interest of other people?

As beautiful as love is, it can be very difficult to find. Relationships are challenging and they are never as simple as they seem. There are a very rare few of us who are lucky enough to find true love early. They don’t go through substantial hardships on their way to finding the kind of love that lasts a lifetime and they are extremely fortunate. For the rest of us who aren’t so lucky, we are forced to bear with so many burdens and obstacles that obstruct our paths to that coveted romance we all longingly yearn for. Even when we manage to find ourselves in a happy relationship, it’s still going to take a lot of effort and commitment to make things work. Nothing is ever promised or guaranteed when it comes to love. We all must always maintain a sense of optimism and belief in our love’s ability to pull us through. 

A lot of us get suckered into believing that we are all entitled to living that fairy tale life. We are led to believe that we all deserve our happy endings even when we don’t work for it. That’s where the first mistake lies. Fairy tales don’t exist. Hot romantic Hollywood storylines only belong on the silver screen. Real life is very much different from what we romanticize love to be. The sooner we let go of this deluded romantic philosophy, the better off we will all be in the long run. We must all come to the understanding that love is never going to be perfectly written like a script. Not all endings are always going to be happy. Not all relationships are built to last. Love isn’t always going to be as pristine as we want it to be. 

Stop thinking that your little quirks and oddities are the reason that you are just a difficult person to fall in love with. We are all very difficult people to fall in love with because love is inherently difficult. It is much too complex and complicated an emotion for us to brush it off as a simple endeavor. The difficulties in love can be the small things like minor incompatibility issues within couples. But they can also be the big things like irreconcilable differences between two human beings. The possibilities are endless. 

We have to understand that part of maturity is understanding that we are all inherently flawed creatures. It’s how we make the most of ourselves despite our flaws that makes up our character. It’s what we do with the tools that we’re given that makes up who we are as people. It’s how we are able to reconcile our clashes and how we are able to merge our conflicting personalities that make up the strength of our love and relationship. We have to learn to accept that our relationships will never be perfect because we are imperfect people. We have to know that relationships are going to be filled with a lot of bumps in the road and that we should be okay with that. Yes, it will be difficult. But sometimes, the difficulty of everything is what makes us appreciate the beauty of love so much more. 

So it’s okay for you to think that you’re difficult to love. It’s okay for you to assume that your flaws will carry over into how you will be in your relationship. It’s perfectly acceptable for you to stumble every now and then. It’s part of who you are. And true love is supposed to transcend all of that. True love is supposed to endure. True love is supposed to stay. 

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