Remember that it’s better to be happy alone than it is to be miserable in a fake relationship.
You shouldn’t be dating someone just because you’re afraid of being alone. You shouldn’t be settling for just any relationship purely because you don’t like the feeling of solitude. You don’t have to force yourself to converse with a person for hours on end even though you don’t find that person interesting or charismatic at all. You don’t have to go out on dinner dates with guys who just don’t tickle your fancy just because you don’t want to spend another night alone at home. You don’t have to be saying yes to every single guy that you meet just so you can delude yourself into thinking that you are keeping yourself busy and active.
You shouldn’t be dating a guy just because you want someone who is constantly texting you for every hour of every day even though those texts are hollow and do nothing for you. You shouldn’t be dating a guy just because you miss the feeling of planting kisses on someone else even though he isn’t worthy of tasting your lips. Sure, he’s going to be able to do all of those things for you, but he won’t be able to do anything for how you really feel about him. You don’t have to force yourself into dating a guy just to get your family off your back about finding someone to be with. You should learn to defend yourself as a single person who is perfectly capable of functioning with a man in her life. You shouldn’t be dating a guy just because you are succumbing to external pressure brought about by others. Sure, you can show this guy off to your family just to make them happy, but deep down, are you happy?
You shouldn’t be forcing yourself to date a guy just because you’re afraid that no one else is going to come along who is going to want to date you. There are literally billions of other people in this world; people you have yet to meet. There are lots of lost souls out there who are also trying to find you. And if you force yourself to be dating this guy just to be able to fill a void that can’t be filled, then you are making yourself unavailable to all of those lost souls. You shouldn’t have to force yourself to date a guy just because you think that it’s the most ideal use of your time. It isn’t. You should never allow yourself to waste your time on someone who doesn’t give you the kind of magic and wonder that genuine love can bring. You shouldn’t be wasting so much time on someone who is virtually incapable of providing you with the kind of happiness that you so desperately need.
You shouldn’t have to settle for a man who isn’t worthy of being with you. You don’t have to keep on forcing yourself to laugh at his jokes even when they do nothing for your humor. You know you’re just doing it because you pity him and you want to make him feel better about himself; and that’s just sad. You shouldn’t have to do things that you don’t want to do for a man who doesn’t even really man that much to you. You shouldn’t have to keep lying to yourself about how happy you are with a man who doesn’t even understand in the slightest sense what it takes to make you happy. You never have to compromise your standards or your expectations for your ideal love because if you just remain patient, that love is going to come to you. You don’t have to rush into anything that is beneath you. You don’t have to force yourself into a situation that just isn’t meant for you. It can be exhausting trying to force yourself to fall in love with a person that you just aren’t in love with and you probably realize that by now.
You have to know that when you do meet the right person, falling in love is going to be easy and smooth like butter. It’s not something that you feel like you would ever have to force. When you really fall in love with someone, you won’t have to force yourself to laugh at his jokes; you won’t have to force yourself to do things that you don’t want to do just to make him happy. You will do whatever you can to make that relationship work because that’s the kind of love that is real, raw, and worth fighting for.
So just be patient for now. Don’t try to force the issue with this guy. You’re just treating him as a temporary placeholder and he doesn’t deserve that either. Remember that it’s better to be happy alone than it is to be miserable in a fake relationship.
