Another day, another man being uncomfortable around a mother nurturing her baby. Today’s Reddit story comes from the AITA (Am I the A**hole?) subreddit – where users post a particular scenario and ask whether they were right or wrong.
A person with the username Chance_Object_7968, which is now suspended, posted his question:
“I (27M) work a job that allows a very good amount of time for a lunch break. So much in fact that I’ll regularly head down to a cafe (I really don’t know ifs it a cafe but it’s about pretty small so yeah) and sit and have something while with the time I have for the break. Keep in mind, for some reason this place is almost always busy.
“It just so happened that today a woman (early-mid 20sF?) came inside with a baby and it was so busy that it looked like there was only like 2 open seats available, 1 of which happened to be the sit across from my small table. This women asked if she can sit at the table. The other table was under the air conditioner so understandable. I said yes because what harm would it have done otherwise? So a little bit goes by and her baby starts crying, so she takes a breast out and starts breastfeeding. Obviously I’m just avoiding all eye contact but it got so uncomfortable that I ended up asking if she might be able to see if she can sit at the other table. I’m just trying to sit here, drink this cup of coffee, finish reading in my portfolio and leave. The woman looked sorry and really just said she couldn’t and the baby was already eating (feeding?, idk) so I just downed the coffee, and started to leave. A few people looked at me like I was a douche and it’s been bothering me. I know it’s a natural thing for baby’s and moms and that there’s nothing I can do. I wasn’t going to try and force her away so I left. Was it to far to ask if she may have sat at the other table. Idk I feel like I was an asshole thinking about it now. But I just didn’t know what to say when a random women is breastfeeding 3 feet away.
Was I the a**hole here?”
Suffice it to say; the entire Reddit community was against this man’s actions. For context, when people support the person who posts their story, they reply with NTA (Not the A**hole.) But when they’re not supportive and denounce the person for their actions, they reply with YTA (You’re the A**hole.)
“Yes. 1000% yes YTA. This woman probably got two hours of sleep last night, has a crushingly awful mix of hormones in her body, she tried to escape and do ONE adult thing for herself, only to have to feed her crying baby and then you give her a hard time?
I get that not everyone grows up comfortable around bodies and nudity but bro. Breastfeeding is 0% sexual. And if it really bothered you, you should’ve moved to the less desirable spot. Everyone was looking at you weirdly because YTA. Please do better next time – she deserves empathy, which was decidedly not what you gave her.”
“And how ignorant can one be? You just don’t get up and move around when the baby already is feeding!!! There was another spot available, if OP felt uncomfortable he should have just moved there himself. But asking her to move AFTER the baby was already feeding? That’s an obvious YTA!”
Another user, munchkin0501, wrote:
“Why couldn’t YOU move to the other table if YOU were uncomfortable as opposed to asking the lady with something attached to her boob to just get up and move? YTA”
The comments on this user’s post unanimously support the mother of this story, and rightfully so.
You can read all of the comments on Reddit here.
This man definitely deserves all the YTAs he received from the community. Breastfeeding is a natural part of life – a mother needs to feed her baby; it’s that simple. If someone is uncomfortable around it, they should move out of the way and think about why something natural and nurturing makes them uncomfortable.
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