In her memoir “When A Soulmate Says No” the Australian mother-of-two shared that a person rejected her she thought of as her soulmate.
Amanda Trenfield, who lives in Sydney, Australia said that she and her husband were going through a rough patch in their relationship when she decided to go on a three-day trip with him to reconnect and spend some quality time.
So, she tagged along with her husband and reached Margaret River in Western Australia, where they were supposed to stay for three days.
But on the dinner on their very first night, Amanda locked eyes with a stranger and felt something she hadn’t felt in a very long time.
“As I settled into my seat, I looked up and immediately lost my breath,” she wrote in her memoir. “When our eyes met there was an instant familiarity that ran deeper than water-cooler chat. These eyes had locked before. Twelve years earlier. His name was Jason. I hadn’t forgotten.”
The Sydney native described her attraction to Jason as something she couldn’t explain and said that after having a conversation with him at the dinner, when they all returned to their hotel, Jason offered Amanda and her husband to join him for a drink.
“It happened to be my favorite rose. And during the course of that evening, we just stayed talking … there was a depth of connection I just hadn’t felt before,” she told Mia Freedman on the No Filter Podcast.
According to Amanda, he welcomed her in when she went to Jason’s room the following day and told him she wanted to have a conversation about ‘feelings.’
“We went on a bush walk while my husband attended the conference,” she said. “I opened the conversation with ‘I felt strange and very connected to you last night,’ and he said he felt the same way.”
“We shared a few kisses during the course of that morning before parting ways, unsure of if – or when – we would see each other again,” Trenfield told Freedman.
The life coach said that she couldn’t stop thinking about Jason when they returned home after the conference.
“I had never felt anything like this before. I had never experienced this sensation,” she gushed. “I now know without hesitation, without question, without any doubt in my mind, my body or my heart, that the energy we experienced that evening was our souls connecting. I left [the dinner party] a different woman.”
After battling her feelings for Jason for a few weeks, Amanda confronted her husband and told him that she wanted to end their 14-year-long marriage.
Later, she contacted Jason through email and asked him out, to which he initially agreed. But a few days later, he emailed her again and told her it was best if they would not meet and never talk again.
This left Amanda heartbroken, “He was there in those moments and felt the connection like I did. He felt the kiss like I did. But he decided to say no and move forward with his life without looking back,” she said.
Trenfield’s story sparked a debate among social media users, and many people criticized her for ruining her marriage for temporary feelings.
“Never in my life have I encountered someone romanticizing a one-night stand that *didn’t even happen*.” One person wrote.
“She was convinced they had a connection but I see no evidence they did. She just projected onto a random dude because she was unhappy. We’ve all been there but we don’t uproot our lives for it,” said another.
“Yeah, the “I ditched my husband and kids of 14 years to live my life with you after meeting you once because you’re my soulmate” might have been coming on a bit strong, no wonder he said, um, no,” added another.
“Of course, he said no! She ghosted her husband after one night! I’d be afraid of dating someone with no object permanence, too,” someone else commented.
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Sources: Daily Mail – New York Post – Images & Featured Images via Amanda Trenfield on Instagram
