One big thing that couples in long-term relationships often argue about is housework and taking care of kids. In a healthy relationship, both partners need to find a fair balance, not just one doing everything. If one person has to do all the chores and take care of the kids alone, it can lead to a lot of frustration and hard feelings.
For example, a person on Reddit, u/AdditionFamiliar655, recently got a lot of attention on the AITA online community. She shared a story about how she taught her stay-at-home husband, who sleeps a lot during the day, a lesson. She pretended to kidnap their baby after finding out he wasn’t taking care of their child.
“I 29 f recently started working again after having my daughter (4m). Daycare is too expensive so my husband 35m reluctantly agreed to stay home. It’s important to know that he’s been unemployed since 2021. He receives benefits. It’s also important to know that he’s extremely lazy. He doesn’t cook, clean, or help out in any way. I was nervous about leaving her home with her father but I had no choice,” the woman shared.
According to the OP, when she came back from work, the baby was clean and sleeping. The next few times she came home, he was either playing with the baby, feeding her, or taking her out for a walk. She felt happy about it. A few days ago, her neighbor told her that as soon as she left, the baby would cry and cry for hours. The neighbor said she knocked on their door, and he finally answered, but he was sleeping. She figured out that he sleeps all day.
“Before I come home he pretends to care for her. I decided to take the day off of work, i left home at my regular time. Waited 30 minutes and then went home. Sure enough he was knocked out sleep with his stupid noise cancelling headphones on. I went to my daughters room, scooped her up and took her to my friends house.”
The woman continued, “I waited about 2hours and I finally called him to tell him that I was coming home early. He called me back saying that he can’t find the baby. He told me that he was going to call the police but before he did I told him what I did.”
He called her an A**h**e and used many other mean words. When she got home, his mother was there, trying to calm him down because he had a panic attack. His mother also called her an A**h**e. Her husband chose to sleep at his mother’s house. Family members are saying she’s a terrible person. She knows it was a big thing, but she’s not sure if she would call herself an A**h**e.
Redditors in the comment section sided with the OP and declared that she was not TA for doing what she did.
“Sleeping with noise cancelling headphones as the only adult in the home caring for a 4M old?! Absolutely NTA,” one wrote.
“NTA. He is not an appropriate caretaker for your child and if I were you I’d be reconsidering the relationship completely,” another said.
“NTA also consider divorce – unemployed and won’t even look after his own kid? This guy’s a leech, you deserve better,” a third advised.
Let us know your views in the comments.
Source: Reddit
