A mum who was trolled for showing ‘too much cleavage’ at her son’s birthday party, defended herself and said there was no reason to send hateful comments and people are generally mean.
Last year Raquel Dicuru, a 37-year-old mum from Tonbridge, Kent, was celebrating her son’s seventh birthday party when her sister-in-law recorded her lighting the candles on Alex’s birthday cake.
The birthday party was a hit, and everyone had a blast. After the party was over, when Raquel watched the video filmed by her sister-in-law, she realized her cleavage stole the spotlight at the party with her boobs on full display.
The mum-of-two couldn’t resist herself sharing the video on her TikTok account, where she jokingly wrote, “When you didn’t realize your boobies were stealing the spotlight at your son’s birthday party until you saw pics and vid later that evening!”
However, the joke backfired, and Dicuru’s clip which amassed over a million views on TikTok, received hundreds of hate comments, all bashing her for wearing an inappropriate and indecent dress to her seven-year-old’s birthday bash.
In the comment section, most viewers branded her as ‘indecent’ and ‘shameless’. However, Raquel didn’t hold back and trashed her haters in the follow-up videos on TikTok.
She posted another video on her account wearing the same purple flowers sundress that triggered many of her followers and said she didn’t understand what was offensive about that dress.
“My sister-in-law was the one who filmed the video. She didn’t even notice until she sent me the video and I said ‘Oh my god! My boobies are right there!’. Normally, I would be just adjusting my clothing all the time. But that dress was quite comfy so I wasn’t,” she explained.
“I think it’s mostly down to the angle of the video. She was filming from above and I was crouching down a little bit. We were all just living in the moment and singing happy birthday to my son. So I just thought it was funny that we were all unaware.”
She said she shared the video online because she thought it was funny but was literally shocked when she read all the hateful comments about her dress and herself.
“Some of the people said my caption was drawing attention to my boobs. But that’s why it was funny. It’s like when people walk out of a toilet with paper hanging onto their shoe. It’s funny,” she said. “Of all the videos I’ve posted about litter picking and eco-living – which I would love to go viral – it was this that did.”
The mum said most of the mean comments were from men who took offense to her low-cut dress and brutally criticized her by accusing her that she posted the video for attention and finding herself a new husband.
“I had to start deleting the nasty comments because they were getting really nasty.
“I didn’t reply to most of them, so I just deleted them and continued with my life,” she explained. “Men were commenting stuff like ‘Women know what they’re doing’ and ‘Women always do this for attention’. It was as if I was being blamed for having something on show.”
“It just sounds like they’ve had bad experiences with women and they’re putting me into this category of ‘She wants the dads to look at her, she just wants attention’. They were saying I was making it all about me rather than my son. Someone said the fact I posted the video was ‘sick’,” she said.
”It’s just weird – why are people so angry? They’re just boobs. Of course, people create a story in the head about what went on behind the scenes with the video. I don’t mind too much – these people don’t know me. If they knew me, they’d know I’m not like that.”
Raquel said nobody should be shamed for wearing what they want, and people need to get a life so they won’t make others miserable based on their choices.
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