Perhaps having no response may seem like it’s nothing – but the truth is that that silence carries so much weight. Having no response may seem like it’s harmless – but it’s sending you a compelling message. And that’s not something that you can ignore.
No response is a response – in relationships.
A lot of times in a relationship, being met with silence often means that you are nearing the end. When you usually expect a response, and you don’t get one, you know that something has changed dramatically. You know that something is off. You know that something doesn’t feel right anymore because something is out of place. And once something changes in such a manner in your relationship, you also know that there’s just no going back anymore. You know that things have changed – and they are practically changed forever.
Just because you’re not getting a response doesn’t mean that a message isn’t being sent to you. Not getting a response is still a response. In a lot of different cases, it’s a sign of things that have taken a turn for the worse. When a person greets you with silence, it means that that person doesn’t think you are worthy of a reply. It means that that person doesn’t want to waste their breath on you. It means that they no longer wish to engage in any conversation with you.
And with saying nothing, they are saying so much. By saying nothing, they are essentially telling you that they don’t trust you with their deepest feelings and thoughts anymore. They no longer feel that itch to tell you about the essential things that are happening in their life.
It means that they are slowly trying to distance themselves from you because they aren’t comfortable with opening up to you at this point. And even though they aren’t opening up to you about their feelings, they’re still telling you so much about what they feel.
No response is a response – explained.
Getting no response from someone means that they would instead go to other people for what you want them to be going to you for. It means that they are getting other people to fill the void that you want to be filling yourself. It means that they would instead be wasting their breath on someone else even when you want to be the one who lends them a listening ear. Honestly, they would just much rather talk to another person because you would be a waste of time, energy, and emotions. You wouldn’t be worth talking to anymore because they feel like they’ve lost that valuable connection with you.
They will feel like they no longer have that tangible piece of energy that used to bind the two of you together. And that’s why it was so easy for them to detach themselves from you like that; to make it seem like they never even knew you in the first place. That’s why it was so easy to ignore you and act as if you weren’t worthy of a response.
It can be tough when all you want to give to a person is love, and all you receive in return is silence. But it still happens. When a person remains silent to you, it means that that individual is going through a lot of stuff; and they would instead go through it all without you.
Whether they are going through good times or bad, they are choosing to go through it on their own. They are choosing to face life by themselves. They don’t want to include you anymore, and that’s why they aren’t warranting you with any response. They chose loneliness over you. And that should tell you a lot about how they feel about you.
No response is a response – how to deal with it.
Of course, you can also make the argument that silence can mean so many things. And you’re right. But at the end of the day, you’re going to have to face the truth. A person who loves you is someone who is never going to give you silence. A person who loves you is never going to leave you hanging. They know that no response is a response, just like everyone else who cares about your feelings.
A person who loves you is always going to warrant you with a response. So when it feels like all of your efforts are falling on deaf ears, then you probably know what’s going on. You hear the message loud and clear.
Love doesn’t exist anymore. Because love is always going to warrant some response. Love is never silent. Love is never subtle. Love is never something that you’re going to have to force out of a person. When your attempts to love someone aren’t reciprocated. When the receptacle of your love is unresponsive, then you know that that’s telling you what you need to hear, even though it’s not what you wanted.
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Hmm good word. Hurtful, bc I know the no response means who they r talking about You with somebody else that won’t respond so it’s ok
That’s deep. Learn something every day
Very true
Thank you, Lin 🙂
What a crap logic. no response is just that, lack of it, and means nothing. What a shit article
So meaningful
Some people just are not worthy of a response. It is not my job to teach them as to why. They need to learn to work it out for themself’s. Then if course o ne can always ask why a response was not given. Then again… they would not ask know ikng the answer anyway. Lol
Your mentality is that of an irresponsible child who is abusing their rights and privileges in our society just because you have them. I can’t believe I’m quoting Spiderman here, but it definitely applies that, “Great power comes with great responsibility.” Stop dating people until you learn how to properly value the wellbeing of other human beings you selfish ingrate.
No response especially when you’ve been in a long term relationship is sociopathic, abusive, and cowardly. The fact that our society is forcing people to become comfortable with the level of dishonor we allow in relationships now is deplorable. While we’re no longer willing to shame someone for not taking responsibility for their role in a relationship that may be coming to an end and how their action or inaction affects another human being, somehow we’re okay with shaming people to the point of destruction over even slightly differing political opinions and even baseless rumors. Either our society needs to shift into something that values humanity, or it needs to come crashing and burning down so hard we can start fresh. We either need an awakening or a reckoning, but what we have right now culturally in America is just plain shitty.
I appreciate this response. I feel the same way.