The act of actually pursuing love from a woman is an art form. The act of actually putting in the effort to get a girl’s love and attention can be very underrated and underappreciated. Sometimes, so many girls have trouble noticing the men who are actually making an effort with them – and these same girls are too tolerant of the men who mistreat them. As human beings, we are all prone to our weaknesses.
A lot of us have a tendency to just fall completely dependent on our routines. We all crave comfort, stability, and consistency in varying degrees. A lot of us will always want to stay in our comfort zones a lot of the time. And that is a truth about human psychology that carries over into relationships as well.
When you are in a romantic relationship with the same person for an extended period of time, then it’s likely that a bulk of what makes up the relationship is habitual. Maybe even, the entire relationship can be just a force of habit in itself.
And that can be dangerous. We don’t really talk about the importance of putting an effort into relationships. The truth is that relationships aren’t supposed to be easy and comfortable all the time. In fact, it rarely ever is like that. A relationship is ALWAYS going to require effort.
As human beings, we are all going to have certain needs and expectations that are specific to our personalities and perspectives on love. And we all deserve to have our needs and expectations (so as long as they are reasonable) met. You always deserve to be with someone who actually puts a lot of effort in making sure that you feel wanted.
You should only ever date someone who puts in the work for you. Only date someone who is going to get excited at the thought of being with you. This is someone who is going to put a lot of time and effort into planning your date nights. This should be someone who goes all out when it comes to manufacturing memories with you.
He should be the type of guy who knows that any opportunity he gets to spend time with you is a chance for him to make a lasting impression. You should only ever really be in a relationship with someone who is sure about being with you; someone who doesn’t have any doubts.
You should date a person who will not hesitate one bit to actually be your partner in life. You should be with someone who casts all fears and insecurities from your mind regardless of what might be going on in their own personal life.
You should date a guy who never stops chasing after you; someone who is constantly trying to push the envelope. You need to be someone who is always looking to raise the bar; someone who is looking to outdo himself at every opportunity. You need to date someone who really pays attention to all of the little things.
This is the kind of person who would never take you for granted; a guy who would always find value and importance in every aspect of your being. You should be with someone who really listens to you; someone who makes you feel safe to express yourself whenever you need to get something off your chest.
You should date someone who really understands how much you value your independence and occasional solitude. And yet, he also understands the importance of being able to make you feel chosen and pursued.
You need to be with someone who you know is making a conscious decision every single day to love you and be with you; someone who doesn’t love you by mere impulse or duty – but rather, someone who REALLY loves you because he genuinely WANTS to do so. Date someone who is always going to have no problems with making his love known to you.
He should be someone who is willing to express his love for you regardless if you’re alone or you’re surrounded by a crowd of people. You need to date someone who actually WANTS to love you the way that you want to be loved – unconditionally and wholeheartedly. You deserve to date someone who never gives up on you no matter how hard you might make it for him.
You deserve to date a guy who knows just how lucky he is to be in a relationship with you; someone who would willingly carve space out of their life for you. Sure, you can have certain “types” that you can pursue.
But ultimately, what is important is that you have someone who doesn’t take any chances with you; someone who doesn’t leave your relationship up to fate. You deserve to be with someone who REALLY loves you with every fiber of his being.
