It’s very important to preface this article by getting one thing straight: cheating is never a black and white issue. It’s a very grey area; and not all acts of cheating carry equal ethical weight. Yes, cheating in all its forms is unjustifiable. It’s wrong. There is no acceptable reason for anyone to cheat on their partners. And the partner who is cheated on is always the victim – and it’s important to emphasize that point right now.
As will be pointed out in this piece, women can have an absolute variety of reasons that could drive them to cheating on their men; however, just because they have their reasons doesn’t mean that they are excused from their sins. But these reasons will paint a better picture of what really goes through a woman’s mind when she cheats on her man.
1. “I just wasn’t in love with him anymore.”
We were married for so long. Just a little over a decade already, in fact. And if you think that just because you’re married to someone for over 10 years, you guys are probably solid, then you’ve got another thing coming to you. I grew out of love with my man. It just wasn’t the same as it used to be. I knew that I had been feeling this way for a while; but I never really left him because I wanted to stay with him for the sake of our kids. I didn’t want my children to grow up in a broken family. But I had my needs as well. I needed to feel love from someone I loved – and that’s something that I was able to find; albeit, not with my husband.
There was a really close friend of mine who I had known since the days of my youth. We were practically soulmates but we just never got together because we couldn’t get the timing right. We always had something else that we needed to attend to and that’s why we could never nurture our love. And so we went on our own separate romantic paths. Unfortunately, we weren’t happy with where we ended up – and somehow, we could only find happiness in one another. And I think that we’re all deserving of happiness. Don’t you? – Lauren, 37
2. “My boyfriend never did anything to make me feel loved or wanted.”
A girl just wants to be needed. Is that too much to ask? I don’t want to be needed in the sense that a guy would practically collapse without me. But I don’t think I deserved to be in a relationship with a guy who would treat me as someone who was expendable. I didn’t want to have to put up with a relationship that felt like I was just forcing my way in. My man just never did anything to make me feel like he truly valued my presence in his life. And as a result, I just had to cut myself loose. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t handle it.
I needed to feel like I was needed – and unfortunately, my boyfriend couldn’t do that for me. So I sought comfort and refuge in the arms of other men; yes, multiple men. And then I realized that I was living a lie by forcing myself to stay in the relationship. And we did eventually just break up. – Nicole, 29
3. “I knew that my man was cheating on me; so I decided to return the favor.”
I remember that day perfectly. I was just browsing through the computer at home one day and there all the evidence was. He had left his social media account logged in, and I saw all of the messages. He had been cheating on me for quite a while. And by the looks of it, things were starting to get really serious between the two of them. Of course, I confronted him about it. He tried to deny it at first but then he couldn’t run from the truth any longer. He said he was sorry. I told him I forgave him.
And I genuinely thought that that would be the end of it. But I was wrong. I was still angry. I was still fuming. I needed an outlet for my anger. And who would have thought that the best way to get over being cheated on was to cheat on him right back? It wasn’t really all that hard to get into an affair. There had been so many propositions from so many other men throughout the course of our relationship and I had always just declined them. But again, I was angry. I needed an outlet.” – Andrea, 33
So what do you think? Do you empathize with these women? Are their reasons justifiable? Would YOU ever cheat on your man? Whatever the answer; the truth is that no relationship will ever survive when infidelity is prevalent.