So here’s the scenario: you’re out drinking with your buddies at the bar. You’re single, anyway. You have no girlfriend at home who is going to be waiting up for you. You are free. You can do whatever you want. Then suddenly, a certain girl from across the room just catches your eye.
She’s pretty and you tell your buddies about it. They are all so quick to pounce on the situation. They tell you that you should go up to her and talk to her. They give you all sorts of advice – about how to approach her, woo her, and take her home for the night.
You’ve probably done this once with a girl before; so you should have no problems doing it again right? And your boys are practically pushing you towards her at this point.
But should you really push through with this? Well, other than the fact that you might end up contracting STD’s from this girl you’ve never met, you might end up destroying something that could potentially become something more.
It’s not always a good idea to sleep with a girl that you’re just meeting for the first time. And while your animal urges may be driving you desperate, you need to be able to control yourself. Keep it in your pants for a bit and consider the reasons why it’s bad for you to be sleeping with her right away.
1. You could possibly risk destroying the fulfilment of a potentially beautiful relationship by sleeping with her right away.
Just take the time to think about it for a while. She seems like a pretty girl. And if you talk to her and she seems interesting, then maybe it could develop into something more, right? I mean, if she’s going to be willing to sleep with you on the first night, then she probably sees something in you as well. And you don’t want to be messing all of that up by having sex on the first day that you meet.
That’s just going to thrust your relationship to a stage that you might not necessarily be able to handle just yet. Take things slow and see where it goes. You never know; this woman might be the one you end up spending the rest of your life with after all.
2. She is a crazy girl who is going to cling to you after the first time you sleep with each other.
You’re familiar with that case already. You sleep with a girl that you just want casual relations with – but she wants something more. This is where things get really tricky. You are going to have to find a way to let her down easily. You are going to have to find a way to keep your distance from her because she definitely wants more from you.
3. She could be in a relationship with someone else and you don’t want any of that drama for yourself.
One of the biggest risks that come with sleeping with someone you’ve only just met is that you never know what kind of drama they’re carrying with them. For instance, what if they’re in a relationship with another guy? What if they’re married with kids?
You don’t want to be taking on that kind of drama for yourself. You always want to make sure that any girl you sleep with is going to be free of any emotional baggage. Otherwise, you’re going to get caught in the crossfire. And none of it will have been worth it at that point.
4. You don’t feel like you’re really ready to be engaging in casual sex with anyone just yet.
If you’re not ready for it, then don’t do it. Just be chill about it for a bit. Just because all of your guy friends are pushing you to have sex doesn’t mean that you should right away. Sex is a very personal and intimate activity that you share with another person. And if you feel like you’re not ready for it yet, you shouldn’t be pressured into doing it at all.
5. You don’t have the noblest and purest intentions – in other words, you’re just being a douche.
Didn’t your mother always teach you to be a gentleman? Always be a good guy no matter what peer pressure is going to tell you. Your guy friends might be encouraging you to do it with her. They might even be cheering you on. But you can’t give in to that kind of pressure.
You have to stick to your principles. You never know what kind of emotions or feelings that girl might be having to deal with at that moment. You could potentially be messing her up by just engaging in casual sexual relations with her. You would never want to be tormenting a girl and using her in that capacity. You must always be treating her with respect – you can’t be treating her like an object for pleasure.
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