It’s perfectly possible for her to still leave you even if she loves you. Women can still leave the men that they love and that’s why you shouldn’t be so complacent. Sure. It might break her on the inside to do so. It might be the hardest thing she ever puts herself through. But that doesn’t mean that she won’t do it. Her heart is breaking into the littlest pieces when she chooses to get up and walk away from you. But she knows it’s exactly what she needs to do. It’s going to take a lot of strength and courage on her part to do it, but she isn’t going to let fear stop her. She isn’t going to let the fear of getting hurt cripple her into staying with you even though she knows that it’s the wrong thing to do.
There are many possible reasons that a woman could leave you; you could cheat on her, you could beat her and abuse her, you could disrespect her and manhandle her. And yes, these are all grave acts. But there’s one act that is so severe and so subtle that you might not think much of it. A woman will not hesitate to leave you if you fail to be present in your own relationship. She won’t be afraid to leave you if you don’t live in the moment. She is going to have to leave you if you take her for granted; if you treat her like a mere accessory to your life and not a real human being you could fall in love with.
Of course, you aren’t necessarily a bad guy. You may not be the kind of guy who mistreats her and beats her up. You might not even be the kind of guy who wishes any kind of harm or ill will towards your partner. You might be a really stand-up guy; a spitting image of a nice man who is always going to make the right choice in life. You might be a great dad to your kids. You might be a great guy to your peers. You might think that you’re doing everything you can to make sure that your wife is happy. But if you take your relationship for granted by focusing on too many distractions, you’re going to end up losing the love of your life. You always have to be paying full attention. You always have to be acting invested in your own relationship. You can’t afford to be getting complacent. You can’t be taking her for granted. You can’t be overlooking the things that you need to be taking notice of. It always pays to have great attention to detail.
And you can be as upset and as angry as you want to be as a guy. You can believe that it’s totally unreasonable for anyone to expect that of you. You might even think it to be completely unfair that the woman you love is going to leave you even when you’re a genuinely nice guy. But here’s the sad reality: being nice isn’t going to be enough to sustain a love. And just because she still loves you as a nice guy doesn’t mean that she’s always going to feel fulfilled in the relationship. More than anything, you need to be her partner. You need to be her lover. You need to be her best friend. You always NEED to be putting in the effort with her. You always have to be able to make her feel like she’s the center of your universe. You always need to prioritize her and make sure that she knows that her needs and expectations are always going to be met. You need to be able to appease all of her fears and insecurities. You need to be able to make her feel safe in your arms. At the end of the day, she is a human being with needs and expectations. She is a woman with feelings and emotions. She isn’t an object or some prized possession that you can use and manipulate at your will. She makes her own decisions. She comes to her own choices. She does what she wants. And if she feels like she is no longer able to get anything out of the love that she has for you, then she’s going to walk away. Don’t be so naïve to think that just because she loves you now means that you’re going to have her in your possession for the rest of your life.
That’s not how love works. Love isn’t something that you merely earn once and then not fight forever again. Love is a constant battle. And it’s the only thing in the world that is ever really worth fighting for. So don’t stop fighting for her love.
