Breastfeeding is a natural part of life and growth. It’s a natural process of a mother feeding her baby – simple, right?
Although it’s supposed to be simple, our society still has a ways to go before it shows more kindness towards mothers who have to feed their babies before giving them judgy looks and telling them to do it somewhere else.
Something similar happened to Ashley Kaidel in 2015 at a restaurant where a woman sitting far from her gave her looks of disgust while Ashley was feeding her baby. Ashley, the super mom of this story, decided to respond quietly by refusing to cover up and continue to feed her baby – babies need food just like we do.
She posted her situation on Facebook, the post has garnered massive virality, and Ashley received praise for being a super mom. In her post, Ashley wrote:
“Earlier today I posted this picture of my son and I breastfeeding uncovered in a public restaurant. In the picture, it appears I’m staring off into the distance. In reality, I’m staring into the eyes of a woman staring at me. She is looking at me with disgust and shaking her head with judgement in an attempt to shame me and indirectly tell me without words that I am wrong and need to cover myself.”“
Then she went on to explain why she refused to cover up:
“Let me make my reasoning clear on why I post pictures of my son and I publicly breastfeeding uncovered.”
“I don’t mean to say “Everyone should breast feed without a cover. Show the world your boobs!” If a mother is more comfortable covering herself because SHE feels better doing so, then I totally support that.”
“With that being said, the reason I post these types pictures is for the mother that tried breastfeeding uncovered once and she got shamed, she got stared and pointed at, she got nasty comments, she got asked to leave the room, she got asked to cover up.”
“Number one, breast feeding mothers are protected under law to breast feed any way, any how and any where they’re allowed to be in all circumstances otherwise. Number two, you should not ever feel shamed, belittled, embarrassed or wrong for feeding your baby the way nature intended. I do this for the person that has the mentality ‘Boobs are to be covered. They’re for your husbands eyes only. They’re intimate. It’s a personal/private thing to feed your baby. Cover up out of respect. My kids don’t need to see that. Walk out of the room.’ and any other derogatory, close minded comments and sentiments alike.”
“Secondly, it is exponentially unfair and selfish to ask a mother and baby to exclude themselves from a table or event or gathering because you’re for some reason uncomfortable with how she feeds her child. No person should be isolated and shunned because they’re eating, especially when you yourself are eating while ridiculing how someone else is eating.”
“Lastly, your children need to see breastfeeding for the same reason you do. They need to acknowledge, comprehend and appreciate that breast milk and breast feeding is and should forever be the first and best choice for both mom and baby.”
Finishing her post, she wrote for moms all over the world:
“So again, I don’t post this for attention. I don’t post this because I think everyone should nurse uncovered. I post this to give mamas encouragement. And to encourage others to make breastfeeding mothers feel accepted and supported; not alienated, ridiculed and judged.”
Ashley, you’re a super mom for nurturing your baby and not letting anyone tell you otherwise. Society needs to be more kind and accepting towards mothers, not make it difficult for them to feed their babies.
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Featured Image via Ashley Kaidel on Facebook