Different things tick different people off. Some mouths water on the thought of chocolate while others will flood for pizza. Same is the case with relationships. What works for one, might not work for the other or might work even better. A little more effort on certain aspects of a relationship can completely turn a twosome into an enough-some. The things that couples ought to be very careful about and that underline almost all the aspects of a healthy relationship include:
1. Communication:
While some people like to keep it more low key than the others, communication is an undeniably important player in a relationship. But not everyone knows how to communicate in a way that is neither too much nor too less. Couples should and must discuss their matters and trust each other with the consequences.
Never should a couple ignore the giant elephant in the room, because if not tackled quickly, the relationship might get stepped on by it. Make the other person feel loved and communicate with him or her both verbally and emotionally. This task can be accomplished by caring for your partner’s needs and discussing their problems.
2. Respect:
In the several years of my social observation, I have seen love become part of relationships that are built solely on respect. Meanwhile, I have seen love walking out with its hands up from the same relationships which were initiallyВ based on love but lacked the respect to cement it with. If you ask me, I will tell you that respect is superior to love.
Respecting a person means respecting their opinion, thinking about their feelings, giving them time and trust. And something to remember is that this respect turns ash the moment you cross a certain line. No matter how bad things get, if the only thought that clicks your mind is to involve a third party and discuss your partner’s apparent flaws with them then you really need to watch where you’re going. – Continue reading on the next page
3. Spending Quality Time
Two people who are deeply in love with each other can share silence in the most beautiful way. They just want to feel their partner’s presence. But as the relationship progresses, you need to know about your partner’s interests and what he or she really likes. This will allow you to spend quality time with her for years to come and rip out the element of boredom. Although, there will be hard times but it is important to make a serious effort in making sure that you and your partner are still spending as much quality time together as what brought you two together in the first place.
4. Space:
Spending time together is a healthy sign but a little space is needed to retain a person’s individuality. Spending too much time together might result in the sacrilege of each other’s sanctuaries, leading to frustrations. It might also cause the loss of bliss that comes with curiosity and rarity in a relationship. In a marriage, there should be an ‘us’ but also a ‘you’ and ‘me’ because we all have the right to freedom as long we understand our commitments and our responsibilities towards them.
5. Language of Love
We all have our own respective destinations of love with different expectations associated with it. Some of these are physical, some emotional and the others are a mixture of these two. No matter what, a person should make sure that he/she is fully attending to their partner’s emotional needs.
And for this to be possible, one must first understand the love language of their partner. This love language includes the exchange of gifts, the confidence of agreement, the spending of quality time, acts of service, and physical affirmations. Connect to your partner and ask them about what they want and tell them what you want. This type of a communication brings quite healthy impacts to the relationship.
6. Appreciation:
Everyone requires encouragement in the form of appreciation and acceptance. Knowing that your effort is being appreciated gives a sense of self-confidence. And this is exactly what we don’t do. We do appreciate it in our hearts but we often don’t express the sentiment. This shouldn’t be the case. Try and be expressive and vocal about it. Show your partner in words, in cards, gifts, flowers, acts of kindness and gratitude how much their effort means to you.В – Continue reading on the next page
7. Wise choices:
Arguments and disagreements are a part and parcel of life. Relationships are no exception to this and couples often argue and disagree with each other. Although it is crucial to not stand your ground at times, but one should know very wisely what battles to choose. Arguing over the colour of the new carpeting shouldn’t lead one to sleep on the couch and the other to not make breakfast in the morning. Make wise choices while choosing between your relationship and some argument because that is what wise people do to build up a strong relationship.
8. Positive Vs. Negative
Ups and downs are a part and parcel of our life and sometimes we go into one of those moods where we are annoyed by even the slightest out of turn happening and while we are at it, our partner’s actions feel like they’re getting on our last nerves and we are scared that we might lose control and end up doing something that we will long regret. In such situations, it is better to stay quiet and low key for a while, keeping in mind that nobody is perfect. And so instead of focusing on our partners flaws, their positivity should be taken into account and despair should not be allowed to cloud away their good parts that we so dearly love.
9. Intimacy
Sex depends on a simple equation: the more you have it, the more you’ll want it and on the flip side of the coin; the less you have it, the less you’ll want it along with the lessening of the interest in your marital life that comes with it. It is okay to break monotony at times and try to spice things up to make life interesting. Physical intimacy helps you feel connected to your partner and surely enhances the mental and emotional bonding between you two.
10. No Comparisons
Happy couples don’t use others as scales to judge their own standing neitherВ idealise another person’s relationship because they know that the only scale to check where they stand is the one they have built themselves and suits their wants and needs. Again, what works for one might not work for the other and wise people know this fact and hence are happy with their own thing.
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Do you think these assets are really valuable for you? Are they the secret to a healthy relationship?
