The 5 Phases Of Intimacy In A Relationship (And Why It’s Important For You To Know Where You Stand)
You start to develop a special something with someone special. Is it a relationship? Is it eventually going to lead to true love for the both of you? How can you know if the both of you are on the right path? How can you accurately predict and anticipate what’s in store for the both of you as a couple?
These are all very valid questions to have when you’re starting to get serious with someone. And if you really need your answers, then you have definitely come to the right place.
We are all probably familiar with the popular “five stages of grief” that psychologists like to use in their professional assessments and analyses. And so why not apply that particular scientific model to love and intimacy as well? It should work, right? There are very distinct traits and characteristics that are present in grief and love which actually mirror one another.
And yes, it’s true. All couples are unique. We are all special and unique human beings after all. We all have our own very distinct personalities that we carry with us into our relationships. And so our relationships are also made to be very unique because of the specific traits that we bring into them.
But there is just no denying that couples (especially the successful ones) go through a certain pattern. There are very distinct phases that you and your partner could be going through. And if you’re curious to know what these phases are, then just read on below:
Phase 1: Initial Attraction
The first phase – and perhaps one of the most significant ones – is the initial attraction. This is the part of the relationship where the two of you are just starting to figure out that there’s something different in the air whenever the two of you are together. It’s as if the two of you are put into a very special mood whenever you are around each other.
You start to think that you have a genuine with each other and you want to be able to turn that into something real. This is the phase of your relationship where you both decide to take a chance on one another. And it’s all very exciting and grand. Your feelings are all incredibly heightened. Your emotions are all over the place – but you love it. You are loving the thrill and exhilaration that this new experience is bringing you; this experience that you’re sharing with another person.
Phase 2: Relationship Stabilization
And then once all the hype of your initial attraction dies down, your relationship is going to enter its stabilization phase. This is when things start to get less and less exciting in your relationship – and there’s nothing that you can really do to fight it or stop it from happening. All relationships go through this phase and it’s definitely a necessary one.
You have to understand that your relationship can’t always be going full-speed ahead. You are going to burn yourselves out by doing so. You both have to be able to embrace the concept of the grind. A relationship isn’t always designed to be a high-speed rollercoaster ride. Think of it as a long road-trip that has its occasional bends and turns. You really have to be able to find a pace at which both of you are comfortable living.
Phase 3: Emotional and Mental Stockpiling
And once the relationship stabilizes, there will be a few roadblocks and hurdles that you’re both going to face as a couple. These challenges are designed to test the strength of your love. And they’re going to stockpile. They’re going to bury you. And you have to do everything in your power that you don’t get lost underneath it all.
Phase 4: Romantic Reawakening
And once you are able to get through the emotional and mental stockpiling, you are then going to relearn and rediscover just what it is that brought you together in the first place. You are going to have your romantic reawakening phase.
This is when you’ve cut through all the hurdles and trials only to find your precious love still intact. Think of this as a necessary resurgence back into your initial attraction – where everything seems so fresh and raw. Only this time, you know that you don’t just have the potential; but you have the tools that it takes to really sustain your love for the rest of your lives.
Phase 5: Unconditional Love
And when it’s all said and done, if you’re lucky enough in your relationship, you get to a point where you develop real unconditional love for one another; where neither of you will ever change your mind about how you feel or where you stand in the relationship.
This is the phase where the two of you can face the future with your hands intertwined and be excited about what’s to come. Because wherever you go or whatever you do, you will always be together.
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