Dating a married man, even though it might feel exciting, often leads to hurting yourself. Think about it: he’s cheating on his wife, which suggests he may cheat on you too. Even if he’s separated, there’s uncertainty about his future with his estranged wife.
Here are some reasons to reconsider dating a married man:
1. You will always come second
In a relationship with a married man, it often feels like you’re not a priority. Despite his words of eternal devotion, his actions can tell a different story. If he frequently cancels plans with you because of family obligations, like running errands for his wife or taking care of his kids, and you find yourself at the bottom of his list, it’s a sign that he may not be trustworthy.
2. Say goodbye to PDA
Dating a married man has its downsides, like not being able to show affection in public. You can’t hold hands, steal a quick kiss, or walk arm in arm when others can see. Forget about posting affectionate things on social media too. Even if you’re dating a married man who’s separated, he’ll keep your relationship secret until he’s ready to tell the people who matter to him. If you’re a married woman dating a married man, you’ll need to be cautious about being seen together in public.
3. You have to lie, more than ever
One of the biggest problems with dating a married man is keeping it a secret. People won’t understand and may try to convince you to leave the relationship for your own good. You’ll end up lying to friends and family, which can make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. All the secrecy and lies can lead to guilt and stress, harming both your mental health and the relationship itself. It’s a serious consequence of dating a married man, and it’s not worth the stress.
4. You will be the center of gossip
Dating a married man can be tough because people will gossip about it, and their comments can be hurtful. If you’re a married woman dating a married man, the gossip can keep you up at night worrying about getting caught. All the effort spent justifying the relationship to yourself and others suggests it might not be the right choice. Constant scrutiny can strain even the strongest relationships, so maybe it’s time to move on.
5. People will see you as the ‘home wrecker’
Dating a married man can lead to harsh judgment and guilt as you’re seen as the ‘other woman’ who disrupted a family. This emotional burden can be overwhelming, making it important to prioritize your well-being and self-respect over the relationship. In the end, it’s not worth the emotional toll and self-doubt that being in this situation can bring.
6. Then there are kids…
Dating a married man is already complicated, but if he has children, it gets even more challenging. His kids need stability, and fitting into his life can be tough. You’ll often feel guilty for being in the way of his relationship with his children. There may be times when you want to leave, even if you love him and are a great match. In the end, you might feel like you wasted your time with a married man.
Have you or someone you know experienced the painful dangers of dating a married man? Share your stories and advice in the comments below.
My boyfriend is married. Yes very hard, we keep it secret to everyone. Even people around us can’t tell that we know each other. Evertime he go home. I can’t even text him. I always wait when he has a frew time for me. I always wanted to give up but i really love him. Time together with him is my most happiest time. I am not his priority. I am not jealous to his wife but i envy her. I wish i am his home, i wish i can take care of him when he got sick. I dont have an intention to broke his family but i love him so much. I know this is wrong but what should i do? I love him so. Much. Yeah i am his side check but true i always pray for him and his family, i always pray for thier safety health and happiness.
U already know the answer and even if he left his wife and family for u it would hard to trust him bc he cheated on her with you so what would make u any different.
He doesn’t care about you. He is sick he only cares about himself. He doesn’t love you if he did you would be his priority. He doesn’t love his wife if he did he wouldn’t be with you. Don’t let him say he stays with you for the kids because if he cared about them the time and money he spends with you would be for them instead. He is selfish and only looking out for himself.
You are wasting your life away with him. You won’t ever be this young again. If you have kids with him they’re life will be terrible without a father. Leave him and love yourself first then the right person will come by and make your dreams come true.
If he loved you he would be divorced
I was involved with a married I truly loved him but I’m not anymore I would’ve done anything for him it in being hurt and I promised myself that I wouldn’t do that again it happens easily but there are consequences to pay it’s ova with I’m happy for myself and hopefully he will be the man he supposed to be
Please suggest marroed a married man is better or married a maan lives in joint family system is better
I was married to a “man” that cheated on me with his co-worker. He left our home to move in with her and the disruption that he caused had affected our school-aged children. Counseling helped and moving forward with life got easier. That was 15 years ago and to this day my young adult children do not have a strong relationship with their father, he is still with the same person but refuses to marry her, and his side of the family still include me in their gatherings.
I was dating a marrid man. His treatment was not proper such that I was happy when he dunpe me.
If he cheats on her, he will cheat on you!
It is lust instead of love. The man just needs someone to ease his loneliness and to fill in the gap the wife doesn’t meet. Gals, leave such person. You deserve better!
I had a girlfriend for a year. She was my hairstylist. But after almost a year, I started seeing hints that maybe she was still married, even though she said she was divorced for 5 years. Sure enough I found out from one of her coworkers that she was still married and there was 2 other guys she was seeing besides me and her husband. Once I found out, I disappeared and never answered a phone call for her. I just vanished.