Relationships aren’t exactly a walk in the park. But that doesn’t mean that they have to be so complicated either. There are plenty of things that you need to take into consideration if you want to make a relationship work. Yes, at the base of it all, you need to be in love with one another. There’s no point in staying in a relationship when you know that you aren’t really in love. Love should always be the foundation of any romantic relationship. However, love alone isn’t enough to really sustain a relationship. You’re going to need to give a lot of time, dedication, and effort into your relationships.
It’s not rocket science; but sometimes, it’s no always going to be so simple and obvious to a lot of guys. Yes, there are those of you who are going to be completely clueless when it comes to treating your women right. You’re going to feel really lost and uneasy in a relationship. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that you’re terrible at loving someone. It might just be that being in love isn’t necessarily going to be your forte.
Don’t worry about that. That’s exactly what this article is for. By the end of reading this article, you’re going to get a really good idea of what you can do to really treat your woman right. Of course, there isn’t necessarily a rule book to dating; but there are some general universal principles that you can use as a guide for you to make sure that your relationship works out for the best. And so, without much further ado, here are a few secrets that you can use to make sure you can keep your woman happy in your relationship.
1. Make her feel safe and protected.
There are two levels to this. On the one level, she’s going to want to feel safe and protected from external threats. She is always going to want to seek protection from you. She is going to want to make sure that you always have her back; that you are always going to be there to defend her from all of her enemies. And on the second level, she’s going to want to feel safe and protected in your own relationship. She is going to make herself vulnerable to you, and she wants to make sure that you won’t end up hurting her.
2. Make her feel noticed.
Do your part in really paying attention to her. Always make her feel like she has a free outlet; someone who is always going to give her the attention that she needs. Listen to everything she might have to say. And don’t disregard her thoughts and opinions on anything. Respect her enough to value what she has to say.
3. Make her feel loved.
Never be a withholding of your love and affection. Always be expressive of your feelings for her. Always let her know exactly what’s in your heart. Always let her know just how attached you are to her. Never put her in a position to doubt the love that you have for her. Never make her question that you’re really in this relationship for the right reasons.
4. Make her feel welcome to take care of you.
As a woman, it’s going to be natural for her to want to take care of you. And you’re going to have to make her feel welcome to do so. Yes, you are a man. And yes, you are probably capable of taking care of yourself. You are expected to be able to provide for yourself. However, you should always be willing to let the woman you love to take care of you. This is how she’s going to manifest her love for you, and you can’t deprive her of that platform.
5. Make her feel appreciated.
Don’t take her for granted in your relationship. Never make it seem like you don’t truly appreciate everything she does for you. Always be grateful for everything that she is to your life. Whenever she does something good for you, make sure that it never goes unnoticed. Try your best to convince her that you always take notice of everything that she brings to the table. If you fail to make her feel appreciated, then she could lose interest in trying to please you.
6. Make her feel like she can really rely on you.
You need to be someone who is going to serve as a rock for her. She needs to be able to rely on you whenever she needs you. She always needs to be able to count on you to be there for her when she’s going through the toughest times of her life. You have to be able to show her consistency and stability. You need to be able to prove to her that you are a reliable and dependable soul; someone she can always believe in.
I was in a relationship and I thought he was the one until I moved in with him. He turned Controlling and superior and withholding with his love stayed alone In his room which was supposed to be a guest room. Stopped any kind of love making, wanted me to pay more of the expenses, that l didn’t have! Told me I was going to have to leave If I didn’t help. Any short version my kids came, packed me up and got me out of there I was traumatized at the end. Am a bipolar manic depression,with other problems. I have since been alone for many years and just Turned 70 in February 2022. Alone was okay, lonely. Karen
Karen I am sorry you’ve had to deal with that obviously what ever problems he had were his I to have dealt with that from my last wife thank God I got out of that relationship with my sanity
Hi Karen, can I say wow? I’m sorry you went through what you did. It sounded so much like what happened to me except for the moving in part. I dated someone who acted so attentive, in the beginning until I started calling him out on things I asked for him to stop doing such as speaking ill of women in general as if he was referring to his past relationships, used racial slurs and names when speaking of people from different cultures and background, and would yell at me when he became frustrated.
He actually wanted me to move in with him and buy a home in Florida, having me move away from my four grown children. I almost fell for it. You see I was a widow of four years when I started dating this man, had been married 42 years with my late husband. I wasn’t prepared for this type of treatment. He became distant and the lovemaking came to a standstill too! I finally had had enough when he’s blame me for stupid little things, which I knew became apparent when we were around his friends who also noticed how he spoke or treated me.
We don’t have to settle for anyone that treats us like that. I just wanted to feel loved again. I know I’m capable unlike him, two wives and numerous relationships in between. So, it wasn’t me. I soon realized he was a narcissist and was dragging me down so I let go. Yes, it hurt and I felt somehow spent as I put a lot of effort into this man. In the end, if they don’t want it, one can’t force it. They say it’s better to be alone and happy than with someone and miserable.
Good luck to you, I wish you happiness.
Maria from Chicago.
Oh dear Karen if you ever need a friend to talk to am here, you can reach out to me…I love God and people.
Ooh ok i hv learned something here
Indeed!
How do you regain the option to do these if you failed already
Pursue her let her know you acknowledge your mistakes and in the remember 1 thing your actions speak louder than words so don’t just say it act and show her because it’s never late to fight for love
Good question!
All of the above does NOT happen in our marriage…. He best change or I will for the first time in my life be single!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Do they call these steps SECRET just to get a man’s attention long enough to read it.? I would say,Yes Men like Secrets.
This is truly not a secret. If both partners are truly in love with one another, these things should come natural and pretty effortlessly. This applies both to women and men. One partner should not have to be in a relationship for the two of you. I know for myself if my man is truly in love with me and is not afraid to show it and can communicate while also allowing himself to be vulnerable and faithful, you have me heart and soul! After 16 years of a failed marriage I found myself at almost 50 years of age truly head over heels in love for the first time. He said everything I wanted in a man.. until he knew I was past the point of no return. I carried a relationship for the both of us and went unnoticed until I was not around. Which all ended with 6 years of a relationship and game playing just to get his attention. I even tried to convince myself that I didn’t need anything from him, being with him was enough. Fortunately I realized that I deserve much more and sadly and in the relationship.