No matter how long you might be in a relationship with someone, you should always keep in mind that things can turn sour in a matter of mere seconds. Sometimes, you can have a really bad argument where you just drive yourselves too far apart. Maybe there is an unfortunate act of betrayal that takes place in the relationship. Or maybe, it can be little things accumulated over time that have just bottled up inside of you. Whatever the case, things have definitely taken a turn for the worse in your relationship; and you don’t know if you have what it takes to get back to where you used to be as a couple.
But here’s the good news, if you were there before, there’s always a chance for the two of you to find your way back. You just need to show the resilience, commitment, love, and patience that it requires to do so. You just have to humble yourself enough to acknowledge that there really is a problem; and that you need to do whatever it takes to get things right.
But if you’re feeling lost and you don’t know what to do, don’t worry too much. That’s what this article is going to try to help you with. Relationships are hard; and the solutions to the problems in relationships aren’t always going to come so naturally to the people that are in them. And if you’re one of those people who just don’t know what to do, then this article is for you. It’s going to try and shed light on the many common issues that couples face in relationships; and what exactly you can do to make sure that these issues don’t crush the both of you.
At the end of the day, relationships are always going to require a great deal of hard work. It’s not just going to be about a matter of loving one another. It’s not just about showing the willingness to try. A relationship only ever ends when the both of you decide for it to be that way. So, if you both show that you are actually open to putting in the dedication and hard work necessary to nurse your relationship back to health, then you always have a fighting chance. You control your own fate. You are the master of your life in love.
To help you tackle the problems in your relationship better, it pays to know what the common problems are first so that you have a deeper and more profound understanding of the issues before diving into anything. To a lot of people, the most common arguments and issues in a relationship can arise as a result of money or sex. And that’s not surprising because a relationship can sometimes turn into some kind of power play; and there is no doubt that when it comes to sex and money, power is always going to be involved somehow. That’s why if you find that you and your partner argue about sex or money often, then it’s really about the power struggle between you to. Both of you have control issues that you both need to address. That’s the underlying principle here that really requires your attention.
And where does this insatiable need for control come from? It all stems from fears and insecurities. The more control you have over a situation, the less likely that anything is going to surprise you and bite you in the butt. The better control you have, the more likely that you aren’t going to be hurt by anything. And that’s essentially the biggest risk that comes with falling in love; the risk of getting hurt. And so, that’s why the both of you really need to make it a point to deal with your fears and insecurities in a constructive manner. There’s just something inherently toxic and abusive about wanting to control your partner. Love should be more about freedom than about control. And that’s why you need to be able to address your fears and insecurities healthily. You need to be able to be more smart in your approach to appeasing these fears.
How do you do that? At the end of the day, it all boils down to communication. The only way you can get rid of insecurities like those is if you learn to trust one another. And trust can only be built with solid openness through communication. You always need to maintain transparency with one another. You always have to be on the same page. You always need to be making an effort to get closer to one another. And the more you try to control each other, the farther apart your hearts become. Just learn to be more trusting. Learn to be more confident in each other. Because at the end of the day, that’s what love really is.