You rely on yourself for happiness and that’s the greatest kind of strength that there is.
It can be a struggle when you’ve been single for the longest time and you keep on watching your friends get into relationships left and right. But in your desperation, you have a tendency to settle for people and for relationships that just aren’t good for you. These are the relationships that bring with them an endless string of heartaches and disappointments. These are the relationships that don’t really add much value or joy to your life.
These are relationships by label only; and not by feelings. It gets to a point where you just have to say that enough is enough. You have to just not care whether you’re in a relationship with someone or not. Of course, you can go back to settling for people who are wrong for you, but you won’t necessarily find meaning or fulfilment there. And you know that. So you wait. You wait for the person and for the relationship that’s perfect for you. You stay single and patient. You wait for the love that you deserve. And that’s what makes you strong.
You’ve practically seen it all at this point whether in your own relationships or in the relationships of others. You’ve had it good but you’ve also had it bad. And by the looks of it, it’s been more of the bad. But still you’re here. You endured and you’re better off for it. You were built for this. You were built to handle the pains of the past and any impending disappointments of the future. You have the strength to wait for what you deserve. You risk feeling lonely and isolated for a long stretch of time but you know that you have the strength to take it. You know you have the emotional capacity to stay patient.
You are no stranger to pain. In fact, pain has manifested itself in your life in various forms and countless experiences. You have found pain in places where you thought there was only light and these experiences always left you feeling emotionally drained and devastated. You know what you don’t want out of relationships at this point. You never want to waste your time with people who only bring you pain ever again. You only want to invest your time and energy in people who are actually worth it; in relationships that will live up to all of your standards. And if that means you having to wait a long while, you’re going to do it; because you think it would be better to be single than to waste your emotional energy on a relationship that isn’t going to last.
You’ve done so well for yourself so far. And who’s to say that you won’t be able to sustain your strength? You are the captain of the ship that is your life and you have full control of the situation. You don’t have to defer to anyone or to anything at all when it comes to your pursuit of happiness. Of course, it’s great to have someone at your side with whom you can share life’s greatest treasures and tragedies. But it’s not necessarily going to be an absolute necessity for you. You’re doing fine on your own. You’ve come this far and there’s no telling just how far you’re going to go. This is your storybook. This is your novel. You get to decide how this all plays out. And if other people want to include themselves in your narrative, they have to be able to prove to you that they’re actually worth it.
You don’t even welcome any form of desperation in your life anymore. You no longer feel like being in a relationship is an itch that you need to scratch. You no longer feel compelled to fall in love with the first person you meet just so you can escape that single life. You no longer put your life on hold just so you can focus all of your energy on finding someone to be with. None of that matters as much to you as living a life that you could be proud of. Love is no longer the destination. It’s no longer the only thing that your life is about. It’s only an add-on that can help brighten things up a bit.
You rely on yourself for happiness and that’s the greatest kind of strength that there is. You no longer feel incomplete just because you’re single. You no longer think that you’re less of a person just because you’re not in a relationship with anyone. You’re no longer itching for intimacy or attention. You’re no longer desperate for someone’s affection. You are able to give yourself all of the emotional assurance that you could ever need and that’s enough for you.
And at the end of the day, you know that the best things in life take time. And you don’t ever want to rush into anything less than the best at this point.