The Real Reason Women Say ˜I’m Fine’ When They’re Actually Not

Never be afraid to speak your mind and let your voice be heard. You are just as valuable a soul as any other human being on the face of this earth and your gender should have nothing to do with it.

This is not a unique experience. Plenty of us have been there for at least one point in our lives. Our partners ask us what’s bothering us and we reply with a simple nothing while simultaneously indicating all the signs that point to the contrary. However, our partners don’t see those signs and choose to only hear what we say, and so they just let things slide. This angers us and it makes us want to rip our partners’ heads off, but then we start to realize that it really isn’t their fault that they can’t read our minds.

Women can be the wittiest and most devastatingly direct people because of their natural spunk. They have this innate ability to seamlessly transition themselves from uninteresting conversations into the actual conversations that they want to have. It’s not exactly that difficult a task to pull off. There are lots of time-tested openers that allow for them to make these transitions. Some common examples for these openers include I just think it’s funny how or don’t you think it’s kind of weird that These are openers that have stood been used by countless women throughout the course of modern civilization. When we decide to use openers like this, it’s only because we haven’t really gotten our thoughts all squared up yet and so we want our boyfriends to do all the work for us. We lead them to do all the thinking because we feel like they aren’t worthy of being spoon-fed. They should already have known what it is they’d done wrong. The problem with that approach to conflict resolution is that it really doesn’t solve anything. In the end, both us just getting very upset with each other and the problem is still remains unresolved. It’s never productive to just adopt a passive-aggressive approach to trying to fix a problem. It’s never productive to allow ourselves to believe that we shouldn’t always just speak our minds and ask what we want. It’s never productive to think that we can solve problems without pointing them out in the first place. We all want to fix the problems in our lives, but we aren’t willing to talk about them. That’s the biggest issue right there, and it’s plain for all to see. We think that being open and honest means that we give up valuable position in the power-play of a relationship. Being open and honest connotes weakness and vulnerability. We think it’s okay to suppress our feelings and force a smile because direct conflict would only make things much worse than they already are. It can be particularly hard for women because of the notion that men must always be the ones who establish dominance in the relationship. Women are forced to just fake a smile and say that they’re fine with how things are even when they’re burning with absolute rage on the inside.– Continue reading on the next page

The roots of the problem can be traced to how society see women’s roles in relationships. Often, women are automatically assumed to be overly insecure, irrational, and crazy even when the evidence says otherwise. Men are equally likely to be incredibly immature, stupid, and irresponsible. There’s a double-standard there and so women feel the need to suppress themselves. They think that they’re not entitled to lash out because they are made to believe that they are an inferior being. Society is conditioned to think that men compose the dominant side of the spectrum, and that women must always bow down to their wishes. A lot of weak-minded people are led to believe that women can’t survive without men, and that it would be in their best interests to never make their men upset.

Ladies, you must always remember that your gender doesn’t define your worth as a person. Your sexual identity is not a limitation or hindrance to the kind of person that you want to become. All of your opinions, feelings, emotions, thoughts, and ideas have weight. They cannot be invalidated on the sole basis that you are a woman. You don’t have to resort to passive-aggressive behavior to get the things that you want the most. Drop the passivity and start being more aggressive. Fight for the things that you want. Demand the things that you deserve. Educate men on the way that you want to be treated. Speak out about the value of respect and how you deserve to always be respected.

Let people know that there is value in being sensitive and emotional. Let people know that you are able to relate to them better because of your empathy. Let people know about the struggles that you’ve gone through and the strength it took to put yourself back together again.

Never be afraid to speak your mind and let your voice be heard. You are just as valuable a soul as any other human being on the face of this earth and your gender should have nothing to do with it.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.