So you just got dumped and you don’t know why. You’re feeling brokenhearted, rejected, dejected, confused, downtrodden, and publicly humiliated. These are perfectly acceptable reactions to your situation. No one ever likes to be on the receiving end of a dumping. Amidst all the confusion and emotional turmoil, you’re having trouble trying to pinpoint where the relationship went wrong.
So you just got dumped and you don’t know why. You’re feeling brokenhearted, rejected, dejected, confused, downtrodden, and publicly humiliated. These are perfectly acceptable reactions to your situation. No one ever likes to be on the receiving end of a dumping. Amidst all the confusion and emotional turmoil, you’re having trouble trying to pinpoint where the relationship went wrong. Was it one big mistake that you committed or was it an accumulation of annoying things that you did when you were together?
Regardless, there is no use crying over spilled milk. Either you go and try to win her back, or you move on. And if you want to move on, it’s best that you get some closure with your previous relationship and try to figure out just where you screwed up so you can try to improve. You don’t want to be committing the same mistakes in your next relationships. Feeling lost? Don’t worry. Here are some probable reasons why she left you:
1. You’re terrible in the sack.
Sad. This must be humiliating but maybe you need to start reviewing your moves in the bedroom. Did you make things exciting? Did you manage to pleasure her every night that you were together? Maybe you were selfish and were only looking out for yourself in the bedroom and she left you as a result. Brush up on your bedroom tricks by reading up on magazines and internet articles every once in a while.
2. She got bored with you.
Maybe the steadiness of your relationship is what got to her. Perhaps you guys were becoming a little too comfortable with each other and ended up in a rut. Whenever you’re in a relationship with someone, you always have to make an effort to keep things fresh and interesting. You never want to settle into a boring routine that you will live out with each other for the rest of your lives.
3. You’re an insensitive jerk.
Maybe you didn’t see it coming because you were always thinking of yourself. Maybe you lack certain levels of empathy and sensitivity that she needed in your relationship. Perhaps she needed you to think of her more often and to be more sensitive of what she was thinking or of how she was feeling at a particular moment.
4. Your relationship had no direction.
Was your relationship going anywhere? Did you have plans of moving in together or getting married? What about children? What plans did you have in your relationship? If you don’t know the answers to any of these questions, then that is a good indicator of why she left you. Maybe she was looking for something real and solid that she could build her future around and instead, she got you.
5. You’re too afraid of commitment.
Commitment is one of the most basic bedrocks for any relationship. You can’t possibly make a relationship work unless both participants are committed to making it work. Maybe she felt like your commitments were always elsewhere and never in the relationship. Maybe she was tired of doing all the work while you were stuck on the sidelines of your own relationship.
6. You just weren’t her type after all.
People change, and so do their perceptions of the people they surround themselves with. When you first met, maybe she found you interesting and so she decided to give you a chance. However, over time, maybe she found that you weren’t her type after all and so she decided to just end things. It’s not really your fault, but it’s the sad reality of the situation.
7. She’s not over her ex.
This is a tricky issue, but you should always be careful to never get into a relationship with someone who isn’t over her ex. There is too much emotional baggage there and you will be forced to bear it. In the end, no one wins because your relationship will end up deteriorating to the point of resentment between the both of you.
8. She fell in love with someone else.
Third party players are never welcome, and whenever they do manage to penetrate the depths of your relationship, only trouble can ensue. If she did fall in love with someone else, then that could always spell potential doom for your relationship. There’s nothing you could have done about it, and it really is such a heartbreaking experience to have to go through.
9. You stopped taking care of yourself.
You got complacent. You stopped taking care of yourself and you let yourself go. You stopped making an effort to look good for her. You stopped going to the gym and you ate like a glutton. Your grooming habits seem to have deteriorated and you never presented yourself well anymore. You should always make a continual effort to win your girl’s heart even when you’re in a relationship together.
10. You cheated on her.
Obviously, if you cheated on her, don’t expect her to be fine with it. Stay committed to one girl if you want to keep her for the rest of your life. There is no room for infidelity in any relationship and she has no obligation to keep you when you decide to betray her trust.
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