Silent killers. They are never really going to be in your face with their approach to dismantling your relationship. They come in the night when you least expect it. They’re quietly working in the background even though you think that everything is fine and dandy. They are slowly wreaking havoc on your relationship without you even realizing it. And that’s the worst part. You’re powerless to stop these killers because you don’t know just how significant of an impact they’re actually making on your relationship.
That is why you are always going to want to maintain a healthy sense of awareness and mindfulness in your relationship. You always have to make sure that you stay on top of everything that is going on between yourself and your partner. Self-awareness is key in ensuring that you know the ins and outs of your relationship in a very intimate capacity. The moment that you cease to stay on top of things is when you allow your relationship to die. It might also be a sign that you’re just taking your relationship for granted.
The best kinds of couples always make sure to constantly monitor their relationships so as to ensure that nothing escapes their attention. If you make an effort to know what’s going on in your relationship, then the better position you would be in to actually address all of the issues that might be plaguing your relationship at the moment. If you constantly stay aware, then the faster you would be able to spot the silent killers in your relationship.
Silent killers are so dangerous because it can be very hard to miss them even when you’re trying to pay attention. You really have to keep yourself informed of what these silent killers are so that you would be able to police yourself in the relationship should they ever arise.
1. You don’t pay attention to your partner.
You really need to pay attention to your partner whenever they talk to you. You can’t just be hearing what they’re saying. You really have to listen to them and understand them in a very deep, intimate, and personal capacity.
2. You don’t reciprocate affection.
If your partner is making an effort to be affectionate and loving with you, then you must always make it a point to reciprocate those efforts. You never want your partner to feel like this is a one-sided love and that they have to do most of the work.
3. You don’t give enough time to your relationship.
A relationship is like a plant. If you don’t give it the time, attention, and care that it needs, it’s eventually going to die. That’s why you always have to make sure to devote a lot of your time and attention to your relationship no matter how busy you are.
4. You don’t practice patience and understanding.
You should always make sure that you practice full patience and understanding with your partner whenever they screw up. They’re not perfect and they aren’t always going to make the right decisions all the time. You have to make them feel like there is room for them to make mistakes every once in a while.
5. You don’t change things up every so often.
It’s nice whenever you are able to settle into a routine. This means that you and your partner have settled into a groove and that you are learning to be more comfortable with one another. However, too much comfort discourages growth and stimulation. This may mean that you might end up getting bored.
6. You set unrealistic expectations for your partner and relationship.
It’s perfectly normal to have certain expectations in a relationship. What isn’t normal is when your expectations become a little too unrealistic. You always want to make it a point of setting realistic expectations for your partner so that you don’t set yourselves up for disappointment.
7. You try to control your partner too much.
You should never look to be too controlling of your partner. You always want to be encouraging one another to be your own person. You always want to support your partner and make them feel like they are free to be or do whatever they want. It shouldn’t be in your place to hold them back from being who they need to be.
These are only a few examples of silent killers in relationships. There might be others that are out there, but these are definitely the most common. You always want to make it a point that you or your partner are never guilty of these things. That’s why it’s always best for you to fully invest and immerse yourself in your relationship. When you stop paying attention to the details, then your relationship is at risk of falling apart.
Thank you for these author. I will inculcate these rules in our relationship.