There are days where you are going to feel like a total failure in your relationships; like you’re not worthy of the love and care that your partner is throwing your way. And hey, that happens. Whether you’ve been together for decades or if you’ve only just started dating; you are always going to be tormented by your own insecurities; but it’s important that you don’t let these insecurities consume you. You can’t let yourself become governed by your personal insecurities. You have to believe that you are always worthy of love – and you must always focus on being the best possible partner in your relationship for as long as you stay together.
One thing you have to remember about relationships is that it is a continuous learning process. You don’t have everything figured out at the start, and you are always going to be learning new things about yourselves the longer that you stay together. And the strongest couples are the ones who understand this the best; they are the ones who are constantly adapting and changing whenever needed. They are content with merely being stuck in their ways. They allow space for their relationships to grow and evolve – because they know that that’s what it takes to sustain a romance.
So in your relationship, don’t be surprised that you’re going to have your share of ups and downs. Don’t be shocked that it’s going to be a rollercoaster ride of sorts. You are both going to try your best – but you’re also going to come up short every once in a while. And that’s okay. What’s important is that you both stay humble enough to actually acknowledge your mistakes and learn from them. That’s part of the magic of relationships. The fact that your love is an imperfect one is what makes it so beautiful. Love would lose its meaning if it were easy. The best things in life never come easily – and they always take time.
It’s okay to acknowledge the fact that you’re imperfect human beings and you are prone to making a few mistakes along the way. You can’t expect each other to be perfect at all. That’s why you both need to be as patient and understanding as possible. When something is bothering you about the other, then talk about it. Address your issues. Don’t merely sweep them under a rug. Always work on your love by constantly communicating with one another. Work your way towards a solution as a couple. Solve your problems together – and you will end up getting closer as a result.
But it also pays if you do your part to minimize the problems yourself. As they say, prevention is better than cure. And you never know, you might be committing some of these mistakes in your relationship without you even knowing it. You also have to keep in mind that men are less expressive and communicative than women. He might be feeling hurt or annoyed – and he might not be saying anything about it.
Fortunately, a brave soul has come forward and has made clear the mistakes that she made during her marriage – and how it’s likely that you might be committing the same mistakes in your own relationship as well.
You treat your partner like a child.
Don’t be condescending at all. Don’t make your partner feel like you constantly see yourself as someone who is above them. You should see your partner as your definite equal – as someone you can really rely on to provide you with perspective and support.
You don’t recognize that your partner might have significantly different sexual needs than you.
As a girl, it’s likely that you don’t want to have as much sex as he does. And that’s fine. That’s normal, in fact. But that shouldn’t mean that you don’t take his sexual needs into consideration as well.
You always put other things in life first before your partner.
It’s important to note that you don’t always have to be making your relationship the center of your universe. You shouldn’t be making your entire life just about your relationship. But it would be wrong for you to never put your partner first every once in a while.
You act too controlling of him and your relationship.
You’re practically suffocating your partner. You aren’t giving him a chance to breathe. You aren’t giving him the space he needs to be his own man. And that’s very frustrating to deal with. You should still respect him enough to just let him be his own person and make his own choices.
You’ve stopped making an effort to make yourself attractive to him.
Neither of you should take each other for granted. You don’t always have to get all dolled up – but it helps to always make yourself as attractive as possible. Always put forth the best version of yourself and never give your guy a reason not to love you.