Hey, it happens to all couples. The deeper you get into the relationship, the more it feels like the fire is slowly burning out. You don’t have to worry just yet. It’s only a problem if you don’t know how to fix it. And fortunately for you, this article is going to teach you how to get the fire back in your relationship when the intimacy starts to die down.
First, you have to understand why you got to this point in the first place. You should consider yourself lucky that you’ve actually made it this far in your relationship. You’re past the excitement of the initial infatuation and courtship stage. And you’re also through with the honeymoon phase.
The dust has settled and you have finally established a sense of stability and consistency in your relationship. You’ve settled into a routine with one another – and that is a testament to just how well you work together as a couple. However, with that kind of stability and structure can also come complacency. You become so confident in how you are as a couple that you might start to take each other for granted.
That’s the difference between fresh relationships and old ones. Fresh relationships always have people who are so invested in making things work because nothing is set in stone yet. However, when things start to stabilize, people in relationships relax a little bit – and that can be the major culprit in dwindling levels of intimacy.
And so now you’re stuck in this situation. And you don’t want to lose your relationship. You don’t want to be complacent. You want to reignite that spark, but how? Well, the fact that you’re here is a good sign. It shows that you have initiative.
It shows that you have proven yourself to be someone who actively wants to do everything that you can to make the relationship work. So without further ado, here are a few things that you can to spark that intimacy in your relationship again.
1. Make a list of the things that you are most thankful for in your relationship.
Sometimes, to reignite that flame in a relationship, you only need to remind yourselves of the things that you are most grateful for in your relationship. It’s that simple. The best way to not take a person for granted is to constantly talk about just what it is about that person you’re incredibly grateful for.
It’s also a nice way to remind you of just how much better your life is now because you’ve chosen to stay together – and you can use that as motivation to pour more effort into trying to make sure that your love never dies out.
2. Talk about your dreams and your goals as a couple.
It’s always nice to have something to look forward to – both as individuals and as a couple. When you share your goals and dreams for your relationship with each other, then you are both giving yourselves an ideal to strive towards. And when you have something that you both can work towards, it’s going to give your relationship a sense of structure and purpose.
You’re going to get a chance to be more invested in the things that you do for on another because you are both working towards something. Your relationship is afforded the luxury of being forward-thinking. You aren’t content with living in the moment. You envision a future for yourselves and you are doing whatever you can to make sure that all your dreams come true as a couple.
3. Learn new skills and try new hobbies together.
One of the best ways to reconnect within a relationship is to challenge yourselves as a couple. Put yourselves outside of your comfort zone so that the both of you have something to bond over. Whether you choose to take up a new hobby or if you travel to a foreign land that you have never been to before; you are both immersing yourselves in a new atmosphere that forces you to just rely on one another – and no one else.
4. Be creative when it comes to planning dates.
Always remember that dates are important in a relationship. When you first got together, you always made sure to have fun on your dates. You used dates as a way for the both of you to bond and to get to know each other better. You dated because you wanted to really connect with one another.
And it’s highly likely that some of your best memories in your relationship happened on dates that you’ve been on. So that’s why you should still continue to make it a point to put effort in planning dates even when you’re deep into a relationship. You should never stop trying to get closer to one another. You should never stop trying to connect with each other.
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