Have you been doing any of these things to yourself? For your own sake, stop while you still can.
It should always be in our best interests to try to better ourselves every chance we get. When the opportunity for self-improvement comes, we should grab it by the reins and make the most of it. Life is always a journey of continuous development of the self. The moment we stop trying to be the best possible versions of ourselves is the day that we die. Part of the reason why we want to constantly improve ourselves is because we want to come across as attractive to the people that happen to surround us.
No man is an island, and we’re going to need people in our lives to help us navigate through the universe’s treacherous waters. We all try our best to find relationships with people that are filled with love, understanding, compassion, kindness, and patience. All human beings are in need of love whether we admit it or not, and the fact of the matter is that we won’t be able to make people love us unless we present ourselves as attractive people. Now attraction doesn’t necessarily have to be purely physical. You can have the prettiest face in the world but you can still come across as unattractive to the people around you because of a crappy attitude. How do you know when you’re repelling the people around you? If you exhibit some of these signs, then you’re really not as appealing to people as you think you are.
1. You’re too narcissistic.
No one ever likes a person who is too self-obsessed. You aren’t winning over any hearts if you continually obsess over yourself like you’re the only thing worth paying attention to. You have to learn to accommodate other people into your life and set yourself on the sidelines every once in a while. Stop thinking that you’re the greatest thing since sliced bread because you probably aren’t.
2. You’re obsessed with aesthetics, but not with inner beauty.
You care too much about how your hair looks or what clothes you have to wear today, but your character is as cheap as it comes. You have to balance your outer beauty with having a pleasing personality that people are going to be comfortable interacting with. Your clothes can only get you so far when it comes to making people like you.
3. You’re too competitive.
Life isn’t a competition. Stop trying to outdo every single person that you happen to encounter. We all have our individual struggles and it’s pointless to be comparing your victories to the failures of others. – Continue reading on the next page
4. You aren’t friendly with your friends.
Always value your friends as much as possible. They are the people who are going to help you climb life’s toughest mountains. If you persist in treating them poorly, you might turn around one day and see that they’ve left you alone on the journey.
5. You’re insecure about your place in the lives of others.
Stop worrying so much about how important other people see you as. It’s pathetic and downright conceited. You should only be worrying about how you can best treat other people, and be faithful in their perceptions of your personality.
6. You think too highly of yourself.
All men are created equal. That’s a basic sociological rule that you need to reintroduce yourself to if ever you start thinking too highly of yourself. Know that just because you might be better looking or making more money than your peers doesn’t automatically mean that you’re a better person than them. Place yourself on the same level as your friends, and never look down on them like they’re peasants.
7. You’re a liar.
Dishonesty is the best policy if you want to alienate yourself from everyone. Compulsive and obsessive lying can be a great way for you to drive everyone away from you. No one ever likes being around a liar because dishonest people are just too difficult to figure out. If you want to keep people in your life, never ever lie to them.– Continue reading on the next page
8. You have bad manners.
Learn basic etiquette and adapt yourself to traditional social norms. It’s not that difficult. Always be courteous and thoughtful when you’re interacting with people. Practice traits of humility, empathy, and compassion, and you will learn that people will like being around you. Be rude and you will learn how easy it is to have people despise you.
9. You’re overly dependent on others.
You have to be able to stand on your own two feet if you want others to respect you. Stop being that needy person in the group who can never get stuff done alone. You need to learn how to take care of yourself like a proper adult.
10. Your friends can’t rely on you.
Do your friends some favors every once in a while. It’s stupid for you to keep asking them to do stuff for you when they can’t even rely on you to do favors for them. Show them your worth and let them know that having you in their lives will prove to be an asset.
11. You’re too much of a pessimist.
Don’t succumb to being the raincloud in everyone else’s lives. You have an opportunity to be the candle in the darkness of people’s lives, and you should take that chance. There is too much negativity in the world as is, and you really don’t need to add to it with your pessimism.
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Have you been doing any of these to yourself?