From being someone you’re deathly in love with to being someone you just used to know. It happens. Relationships aren’t always a sure thing; and it can be really difficult when you have to break one apart. You go through life wanting to find love for yourself; you are taught that you need to open yourself up and make yourself more vulnerable if you really want someone to fall in love with you. And you do so because you think that love is always going to be worth all of the risk of potential pain.
And yet, here you are, you’re in pain and you don’t know how to deal with it. You’re hurting and you don’t know what you can do move on from it. You’re dealing with a lot of negative emotions right now and it feels like the universe is just playing games with you. You desperately want to crawl into a hole, wait for all your wounds to heal, and find the strength to face the world again. But you can’t. Life doesn’t go on pause just because you’re going through a heartbreak. You need to keep moving forward. You need to continuously pursue happiness even when it’s so hard to find. But don’t fret; it’s during the darkest moments in life where your light is designed to shine the brightest. You just need to be able to figure out how to do so.
It’s not going to be an easy task though. It’s not a simple thing having to go through a breakup. You are forced to confront a lot of harsh truths and negative emotions that you would never typically have to deal with. But now you have been placed in the precarious position of having to climb your way out of a hole that you built for yourself. But you don’t exactly know how to do it. That’s exactly what this article is for. It’s good that you’re seeking help; and if you want some answers, well, this article is going to give it to you.
Here are a few things that you can do on your road back to happiness after losing the love of your life.
1. Get rid of all reminders of your ex.
How can you move on from something that still plays a major part of how you live your life? If you continue to let the thoughts of your ex rule over your life, then you’re never going to be able to find happiness again. It’s a loss. You’ve lost something – and you need to make sure that you need to cut yourself off from that something to the best of your abilities. Focus on moving forward and let go of everything that is only going to serve as a reminder of you hitting rock bottom. Let go of everything that is only going to remind you of how miserable you feel because of this breakup.
Social media can be a force for good when it wants to be – but it can also grow to become incredibly toxic a lot of the time. And at a time like this when you’re feeling particularly vulnerable and weak, perhaps, it’s better for you to go off the grid for a little bit. Get off social media and just let the chaotic world run on its own for a while. Free yourself from all of the drama and toxicity. If you want to interact with your friends, go and hang out with them in person. Go old-school for a while. Be appreciative of face-to-face human interactions.
3. Really confront your feelings by writing them down or talking about them.
Don’t hide your feelings inside. Don’t sweep them under a rock and expect them to just go away on their own. You need to really come to terms with the reality of the situation. You need to be brave enough to confront your feelings so that you are able to process them and move on from them.
4. Start meeting new people or engaging in new hobbies.
Go on with your life. Start devoting your time and energy to new things. This is the best way that you can stop wasting time getting hung up over someone who isn’t even there anymore. Challenge yourself by putting yourself outside of your comfort zone.
5. Focus on building a life for yourself that you can be proud of.
Really take the time to just focus on yourself. Find happiness within yourself. Learn to be self-reliant. Understand that you don’t need to be with a specific human being just for you to be happy. Try to find happiness in the life that you are building for yourself.
6. Get back into the dating game.
And once your heart is ready, get back into the dating game. Don’t let the pain of heartbreak scare you into not wanting to fall in love again.
