Falling in love is often touted as one of the most amazing experiences that anyone would ever have the privilege of going through., And it’s true. There is certainly a lot to be happy about when you’re falling in love with someone. But what they don’t tell you is that falling in love can be one of the worst things that you could possibly ever have to endure as well.
When you first meet someone who you know you have some kind of chemistry with, then you get excited. You get your hopes up. You feel like nothing else really matters to you in life. You feel like it’s just you and this person – and nothing else really exists. You don’t really care about anything else that is going on in your life.
The start of every epic love affair that you might experience in your life is always going to feel like absolute bliss and elation. You are going to be so excited at the idea of learning more and more new things about a person. You are slowly opening yourself up to another individual. And you allow yourself to fall in love with them bit by bit.
You get so lost in the intimacy and charm of the tiny little moments that you share as a couple. You get excited at the idea of being able to just get lost in each other’s embrace. You drown yourselves in each other’s kisses. You fall hopelessly in love with one another and you wouldn’t really have it any other way.
At the start of the relationship, this is often what people refer to ass the “honeymoon stage.” This is when the two of you are still on a vacation from the realities of life. You are both living on a deserted island where it’s just the two of you and you are still blind to the truths that life brings with it. You are just lounging around in the sunshine and you forget about the many troubles and worries that most other people face.
You look into the eyes of your partner and you see the entire night’s sky. You get lost in it. You feel like you are free from all the shackles and chains of the real world.
However, honeymoon stages always come to an end. They don’t last forever. And once they do come to a close, that’s when the relationship truly begins. That’s when the trust tests will start to reveal themselves. And a lot of the time, that’s when people in relationships will discover that they’re not meant to be together after all.
It happens way too often that people fall in love even though they don’t really have a future together. And whenever that’s the case, it’s always devastating. People who are caught in these situations are often left to wonder about what might be coming next for them.
Would you really subject yourself to staying in a relationship with someone you’re in love with even though you know that you’re not really going to be able to find what you’re looking for in them? Or, would you take the alternative route and just end things right away because you don’t want to be wasting your time on something that isn’t going to last anyway?
You begin to worry about the little things in the relationship. All of the small stuff that you used to rejoice about are now the things that give you a lot of stress and anxiety. You overthink every single situation wherein the two of you interact with one another because you really want to make sense of the circumstances of your relationship.
You want to know what the right move should be, but you don’t seem to know how to go about figuring things out. This entire situation is baffling to you and you’re just desperate to be given the answers to this test that you never asked to take.
But here’s the truth – there really isn’t a single right answer for everyone. There is no such thing as a universal truth when it comes to this situation. It’s totally possible for you to fall in love with someone with every fiber of your being. It’s possible for you to give your entire heart and soul to another person -and they might still not be the one you’re meant to be with forever.
The truth is that it’s all really up to you.
There are no certainties when it comes to love and you can never really control how things are going to turn out. You can only control what you do in the present. So, that’s why you have to decide if you want to stay and take that risk of having your relationship blow up in your face.
Based on statistical averages, most couples spend over a year or two together before they realize that they are wrong for each other. They might eventually realize that they don’t really hold a place in each other’s future. They will start to see each other’s flaws and irreconcilable differences. They might have to go through unresolvable issues that will hinder their growth.
They might eventually realize that they can’t marry this individual and start a new family with them.
And this is the honest truth which you must learn to accept and deal with:
Just because you love someone with everything that you’ve got doesn’t mean that you will be assured of a happy ending. There is not a single relationship on the face of this earth that is free from flaws and imperfections. All couples are going to carry with them their fair share of flaws, blemishes, and imbalances. However, the strongest couples are always able to overpower their imperfections.
But not all couples are going to be strong enough to do that. Some couples will have red flags that will be far too overwhelming and blinding. And when that’s the case, you have to remember that it’s better to just get out of the relationship altogether. You shouldn’t be staying with a person just because it would be far too inconvenient for the two of you to break up. Don’t stay with a person just because you’ve already grown comfortable with the way everything is going.
You must always have the strength and courage to come to terms with the fact that things aren’t turning out. You have to be brave enough to start again when you know that things just aren’t going your way. You need to learn to embrace singlehood if your relationship just isn’t working out.
The only reason you should ever stay with someone is when you know that your love is strong enough to withstand whatever obstacles, storms, and struggles the two of you are going to face together. You should only stay with someone who would be willing to commit to the relationship just as much as you do.