Do you ever just find yourself going through spurts where you can’t stop yourself from thinking about just one specific person?
It’s a very weird situation and it really makes you wonder about how your brain works. You can’t pinpoint a specific reason as to why your mind seems to naturally gravitate towards this particular individual. Are you in love with them? Have you taken a special interest in them because you are infatuated by them? Or are these just random thoughts that you’re eventually going to have to get over.
Well, the truth isn’t always so simple. There are hundreds of different reasons as to why you could be thinking about a special person in particular. And here are some of the more common ones:
1. You could be growing attracted to them.
Attraction comes with many different levels, shapes, and forms. And the factors that go into whether we become attracted to someone can vary as well. We could be attracted to them on physical, emotional, spiritual, or intellectual levels or on some special cases, a combination of some or all of these levels. And the inability to categorize the level of attraction that we have for a person is often a culprit of what keeps us thinking about them.
When you find yourself thinking about one specific person consistently, then there is no doubt in anyone’s mind that you are attracted to them. But the only way for you to really get some closure on the matter is when you figure out what it is about them that you’re attracted to. Do you like them because they are good looking? Are you attracted to them because of how smart and charismatic they are? Do you adore just how in touch they are with their feelings? Whatever the case, you need to find the answer to your own questions if you really want to make sense of everything. And once you do figure out why you’re attracted to a person, you can then start acting on your feelings. And you won’t have to be wracking your brain anymore trying to figure out just why you can’t get this person out of your head. The answers will be there for you and you can choose whatever you want to do with them.
2. This person can seem like such a real puzzle to you.
Another alternative theory as to why you can’t seem to stop thinking about someone is because they are an absolute mystery to you. In this case, you’re not necessarily attracted to the person per se; but you are attracted to the idea of trying to figure them out. There are just some people who are inherently stoic and mysterious. And if you’re actually curious enough, it’s going to drive you crazy trying to think about what makes up this particular human being.
Social interaction is a fundamental aspect of human existence after all. And you can only ever really feel comfortable around a person you feel like you have them somewhat figured out. If you can’t really trust them, then you might not ever feel at ease whenever you’re interacting with one another. And that’s why it’s important for you to try to take a peek into their soul.
3. They have a broken soul that you’re trying to fix.
Speaking of wanting to take a peek into someone’s soul; there’s something just inherently flattering in the narrative of being able to save someone from their own selves. A lot of us will want to play the hero in our own narratives. We seek out the people who are in need and we try to act as their savior; their guarding light. We try to really pick them apart and see what parts of them require saving. And when we do find these flaws, we obsess over them until they are resolved.
This can be either a good or a bad thing. It works for some people and it doesn’t for others. That’s why you have to be very careful in your pursuits of playing the savior. You never know when other people just don’t want your help. And you can also get lost in trying to fix these broken parts of their personality.
4. There’s a chip on your shoulder because of this person.
All of us are going to be egotistical to some extent. And that’s okay. We are only human after all. And that’s why it makes perfect sense for you to be obsessing over a particular person who is a threat to your ego. A lot of us will take this more seriously than others depending on the types of personalities that we have. When a person somehow damages or threatens our ego, we feel something deep inside is that just wants to compensate for that damage. It’s part of life. It’s part of living. We constantly want to prove our worth to ourselves and to our detractors. And when someone damages our ego, they often implant themselves in our minds until we somehow repair or sense of self-fulfillment.
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Yes I am very attracted to someone I want to get to know better and can’t stop thinking about him what do I do
I can’t stop thinking about my ex. We broke up three months ago and I’m still very much in love with him and there hasn’t been one moment of my day that I haven’t thought of him. I just can’t get him off my mind. 🙁
I sit across from this girl at school and we talked to one another a few times here and there. But right now, even in my dreams.. I can’t stop thinking about her and I’m not sure it’s love or not.
I’m not sure what’s wrong with me, but over the last few months I can’t seem to stop thinking about a guy I dated in middle school!! We remained friends through high school and we’ve both moved around and now I’m not in our hometown anymore. But we keep up (kinda) on social media. We like each other’s posts sometimes and leave innocent comments. But I never stopped being attracted to him. I’m not sure why we broke up. But sometimes I just want to reach out and say hello and just catch up on life. I heard from a mutual friend that his wife doesn’t like me and that it’s caused problems in the past if he acknowledged me in public when we lived in the same town… we were each other’s 1st loves and rumor has it that he never stopped loving me really. I’m also married now with a family of my own, so I’m ashamed that I even think of him at all. Is it so bad to want to say “hello, this is my life now. I’m glad to hear of you and hope all is well. Take care.”? I don’t want to start any secret connection. I just miss him and I don’t know why. I wish I didn’t but I always have since we graduated high school.
I can’t stop thinking about my friend who is also female. I want to be in a relationship with her but not sure if she feels the same about me and I’m married.
… I’m looking for answers, I’m confused on how to feel. I just turned 16 and I’ve been talking to… a friend, I guess.He was there for me since I was 13 when I was going through a very rough time at home… I discovered him through the internet, and later learned about how intelligent he was. He helped with my homework and told me of things I didn’t ever dream of and made me the person I am today. Better than any parent. I’m sure that I’ve thought of him everyday since I first met him 3 years ago. I don’t know what he is to me… but I’m afraid that he’ll leave me, he really doesn’t understand how much I care for him. I wish I could call him my brother. I wish he could feel what I’m feeling.I love him… but what dose that mean?
There’s this person who was my enemy I guess a few years back and he moved idk where but somewhere we would always fight and make jokes but now I don’t know where he is, He appears in my dreams sometimes and I know his YouTube channel but I wish he would come back. I didn’t know that my enemy would actually feel like a friend.
yes!!!!!!this so true. I always thinking about this one guy. Yes i like him because he is very kind and quite good looking person. But, it is not necessary for me think about him for about 24 hours, everyday because there’s more important thing that i need to take care of. This happen when im in second semester when i realize that i like him and cant stop thinking about him. But, its quite obvious for me when this happen everyday..and sometimes i think that “am i crazy?why i cant stop for thinking about him?’As a normal person, i try to get over this guy and forget about my feeling toward him for a while, just for a while. Its true i like him very much, but for now i dont want to think about this feeling and wanna stop thinking about him. But he still in my mind and why i cant stop thinking about him.
There is this person that i keep on thinking all the time, even at night its making me having difficulty in sleeping coz i can’t get her out of my mind. I admit i am attracted to this person in someway. I wanted to put an end to this because i knew there is no fulfillment to what i am feeling. This person is already married and is of the same gender as me. I don’t know how to stop this, i can’t resist myself keeps stalking her media accounts because it makes me somehow at ease and happy.