The very fact that you’ve stumbled upon this article is proof that you’re a great boyfriend or husband. A lot of times, when men get bored of having sex with their partners, they are going to resort to cheating and infidelity. And that’s never a good thing.
Unfaithfulness and infidelity in a relationship are big no-no’s. So good on you for not resorting to that kind of toxic behavior that would just rip the heart right out of your partner’s chest. But still, the problem remains. You are getting bored with your sex life and you’re looking to spice things up a little bit. Well, it’s first important to understand how things got here before you can try to improve the situation yourself.
The reason why things have somehow gotten stale in your relationship – is not that surprising actually. It’s just life. It’s normal. It happens to a vast majority of relationships all around the world and so you don’t have to feel bad that you happen to find yourself in this situation. Lots of couples have found themselves where you are right now and they managed to solve their problems. So there should be no reason why you wouldn’t be able to do the same.
When a couple first gets together, the sparks are real. It’s the honeymoon phase where everything is fresh and exciting. But then over time, as the relationship starts to stabilize, things aren’t just as exciting anymore. The sparks will start to wither and the flame doesn’t seem as hot as it used to be.
And when that happens, the diminishing intimacy can manifest itself in irregular (or a lack of) bedroom activity. Sometimes, kids can even factor into the equation. If you have children together in your household, then it can be very hard for you to find the time and place to just be intimate with one another. As a result, you just end up ignoring your sexual needs because you prioritize everything else.
And that’s bad. That’s not something that you can just afford to ignore. If you allow yourself to have a relationship that is devoid of physical intimacy, then you risk losing each other in the process. You don’t want to be to individual beings who are just choosing to live alongside one another. Throughout the stretch of your relationship, you both want to be making a conscious effort to connect with one another.
And it’s good that you’re taking the initiative now to address the issue. It shows that you still care about the relationship. It shows that you have the willingness to do your part in making things work with the two of you. And now that you’ve recognized how the problem came to be this way, we can now discuss what you need to do to get things back on track. And you’ve already taken the first step. You’ve sought for answers.
What you really need to do is go back to the roots of your relationship. Go back to the foundations of your romantic union. Go back to the bonds that connected the two of you in the first place. Sometimes, it’s really just a matter of reminding yourselves of how you felt when you first fell in love with each other.
Think of all the things that you used to do for one another when you first started dating. How many of those things do you still practice on a consistent basis today? How many of those things have you let go? Go back and do all of the things that you used to do as a young couple in love. And really try to reconnect with one another in that sense.
Next, you really have to prioritize each other. Sometimes, when life gets too overwhelming, you can take your relationship for granted in favor of other things. And on some level, that’s good. It means that you are secure enough in your relationship to know that you can leave it there for a while knowing that it will still be there for you when you go back to it.
But you can’t keep on neglecting your relationship no matter how busy the two of you might get. You must always prioritize your intimacy in your relationship. The both of you have to make conscious efforts to continuously build on the emotional bond that you have for one another.
And lastly, if all else fails, it’s okay for you to seek help from a licensed professional. There is no shame in seeking professional help when you know that you’re incapable of solving your relationship woes on your own.
The healthiest and strongest couples are the ones who are able to lower their pride for the sake of saving their relationships. You shouldn’t be ashamed of asking for help and guidance from a real professional. And you shouldn’t rule it out as an option for yourselves.