Having a crush on someone is simple. Falling in love with someone is simple. Getting into a relationship with someone is perfectly easy too. But what isn’t as uncomplicated is the work it takes to make a relationship work. The idea of getting into a relationship may seem amazing at first; it gives you something to look forward to, and it gives you the wonderful chance of falling asleep with someone and waking up next to them the next morning. It’s beautiful, isn’t it? Except that all the warm fuzzy feelings of love, infatuation, and admiration. The sheer excitement of getting to someone new, the moments that come and stay with you forever like that first kiss, the first time the two of you made love, the first birthday you spent with them that they made so memorable for you, the first date, the first time you both went on the craziest adventure together.
The first road trip. The time they cheered on at your graduation and whatnot. But are all the great things that come with a relationship easy to find and get? No, they’re not. Committing with someone doesn’t automatically guarantee that you will experience all the things mentioned above and everything else you’ve dreamed of experiencing with your partner. Relationships can take a while to become as healthy and as perfect as you want them to grow. T takes faith, loyalty, commitment and sheer resilience in the face of problems, doubts, uncertainties, fear and rough patches to have the bond last for a lifetime. But, it’s worth it. It’s worth all your efforts and all your honesty. It is worth it, and you realize this when your partner and your bond with them change your life for the better and make you feel like a better, complete person.
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by all the things you need to do to make it through with your partner, don’t be. Here are some basic but very essential secrets behind every successful relationship. If you want to be in a relationship that can withstand anything and everything and come out every problem stronger than before, a relationship makes you feel loved, empowered and changes your life for the better than keep on reading. Here are some secrets behind how to build a healthy, happy relationship with the person you love
1. Be the best partner you can be to them
You may have seen it coming, but it’s honestly the most important thing to take care of in a relationship. When you’re dating someone, and if you genuinely want it to work out for the both of you then you’ve got to make sure you’re the best possible version of yourself as a partner to them. Sure, everyone goes through hard times, and you can’t always be the best person in the whole world, but you can always try. Be as communicative as possible. Be honest. Be humble. Be thankful for them. Tell them how much you appreciate them express yourself as freely and as openly as possible and do it often. Don’t let the spark between the two of you die out. Be loyal. Don’t resort to lying, cheating and other toxic habits that can ruin your relationship. Be considerate and understanding in every sense of the word. Always think of how they will feel about your actions because your actions can either make or break your relationship. Most of all, hold onto them when the going gets tough.
2. Know their language of love
Everyone has a different way of expressing their love. People don’t just show their love for someone through hugs and kisses. There’s always something special they will do for the person they love. Some of us express our love primarily through physical contact. Others do it through giving: giving presents and whatever it is that they want to give. Others show their appreciation by spending quality time with their partner.
For example, your significant other is the type that spends quality time with you then that their language of love. You should familiarize yourself with it and appreciate it. In an ideal situation the two of you should have the same language of love, but in case you don’t then make sure you’re fully understanding and appreciating their way of expressing their love for you. Love them like they have the desire to be loved.
3. Consistency is key
The biggest reason behind a strong, successful long-term relationship is consistency. Making some efforts here and there to love your partner and keep the relationship going won’t help. You have to e consistent. You have to consistent about your feelings for them your words and your actions. You can not expect your relationship to blossom if one day you love them and cat like it but the next you’re just not feeling it and start to avoid your partner. Don’t send your partner mixed signals about what you want, be sure of what you want and keep working toward achieving it in your relationship.