"So, when are you getting married?", Society asked annoyingly.
"With all due respect, it’s none of your business", thought the person, but alas, all they could do was laugh and change the topic.
People seem to always be concerned about anyone’s life besides their own. When you were a kid, they wanted to know what grades you got. When you’re an adult, they wanted to know what job you got and now they want to know when you’ll tie the knot. It’s not only frustrating for single people because it’s a reminder that they’re single; honestly some people prefer to be single. It’s also frustrating for someone in a relationship and actually more for them than anyone else because people tend to implement their advice on how another person’s relationship should work.
This has become an age old question which doesn’t seem to be going away any time soon. No one ever tells you about this part of adulthood, where you constantly have to look over your shoulder for people ready to ask you questions you don’t know the answers to yourself. The truth is, barely anyone does it to offend you, some people are genuinely asking you when you’ll get married. They like knowing what’s going on in your life and what your plans are for the future. This makes it all more hard because you know they don’t mean to frustrate you, they just do!
1. We might be doing the same thing.
Funny thing is that sometimes, even we frustrate others. You know that those two have been together for nearly a decade and no matter how supportive you are of their relationship, you want to know whether or not they plan on taking it to the next level. See? You didn’t mean any harm either but you were wondering and so are those people who ask you.
People will never stop, they have been going at this since the beginning of time and they have no plans of stopping any time soon. You can, however, change how you feel about them asking you stuff like this. For example, you don’t have to feel sad or mad about it. You can just tell them that you’re fine with the way things are for you right now or that if they’re concerned, maybe they can set you up with someone they know.
2. It has an effect on a lot of people.
A lot of people actually fall into a midlife crisis sort of a situation where, after being constantly asked about this, they wonder if it’s even possible for them to find someone. Of course there is, there is someone out there for everyone. You just haven’t found the right person yet. You might even find yourself wondering whether or not it’s really out of concern or out of spite. Mostly concern, although I don’t deny that someone might be doing it out of spite particularly because they’re married themselves or because they knew it’ll get a reaction out of you.
If you’re someone who’s easily affected by what others say then this can be extremely harmful for you in so many ways. If you’re single, you’d have a crisis. If you’re in a relationship, you’d want to know when you’ll be getting married. You’ll basically be the one pressuring your own relationship and leading to an untimely and completely uncalled for breakup. What you and everyone else needs to do is stop giving a damn, people will ask you questions like this for the rest of your life, they’ll want to know everything and poke their nose into every little detail of your life. It will undoubtedly happen.
What you need to do is stop letting it affect you because it doesn’t need to. You can tell them nicely or sternly. Even after you get married, they’ll want to know about kids and then the kid’s school, they’ll want to know if you’re planning on buying a cat or not.
3. It doesn’t need to be so frustrating.
Frankly speaking, there are so many other things that you could be more frustrated about other than this. It isn’t worth the time or effort to actually get annoyed at people for. If it bugs you to a specific extent where you know that you just can’t take it anymore, you get to tell them straightforwardly that it isn’t any of their business but if you choose to shrug it off during a conversation, then you better be able to shrug it off from your brain as well.
Take a breath and just focus on the things which matter to you in YOUR life. Don’t let what others might think affect you. Breathe.
Talk to me
So are you going to start screening the words of other people?
