A lot of women can be very demanding when it comes to their relationships with men and it can be very unfair sometimes. Women will lambast men for being so broken and all over the place, and yet, these will also be the same women who get upset when men decide to take some time to fix themselves. And that’s just downright toxic behavior.
Last month, Michael B. Jordan was gracing the cover of the November issue of GQ magazine. And in his featured article, he talked a little bit about his dating life or lack thereof.
” I don’t even know how you’re going to write this. I’m so nervous even talking like this,” said Jordan. “I’m very mature and advanced in a lot of areas of life. Dating may not be one of ’em. My personal life is not. I don’t really know what dating is.”
Jordan is just the type of guy that you can randomly run into at the club and have a great time with. He’s the kind of guy you can have dinner and a movie with and really enjoy his company. But then, when you through all the other complicated aspects of his lifestyle into the mix.
Things become a lot less simple. If you date him, then you would end up having to deal with the paparazzi, the crazy fans, the tabloids, and everything else that comes with the celebrity status.
”So now, how do you go anywhere normal, chill, just getting to know somebody that you just met, that you may not—may or may not—hit it off at all,” Jordan laments. “That part of dating is tough.” The Hollywood superstar has expressed his desire to just keep on “trying to work on me and build this empire.”
And whether you want to believe it or not, the truth is that there are so many men who are just like Jordan. No, not all people are celebrities. But a lot of men are going to have some things that they need to deal with in their lives before they can be ready for a relationship. As a woman, you might be guilty of complaining about having a man who doesn’t give you enough time and attention to your relationship.
He might try to tell you that he’s doing his best. And he might even be sincere about it. He genuinely loves you but he is always made to feel by you that he can never be enough even though he’s practically giving it his all. Granted, he didn’t really make you feel like a priority. He might have put financial stability and career advancement above you. And that might have seriously tarnished your relationship as a whole.
You still wanted the relationship to work. You tell yourself that you will try your best to be there for him as he attempts to take on the many challenges that are laid out in front of him. He might have already been exhibiting signs that he wasn’t ready to commit to you full-time but you really wanted to force the issue. You wanted to keep on trying with your relationship. But it was just too much for the two of you to handle.
The both of you wanted to make things work but neither of you was willing to budge. You still demanded so much from him and he could never give any of it to you. You were always ending up disappointed and he was always ending up frustrated with how everything turned out.
The truth is that men don’t really feel like they can be in relationships until they are able to get their lives together beforehand. Michael B. Jordan actually has more to say about the issue here:
“I’m pretty sure the women won’t say that’s good, but for me, it’s like I can’t have any regrets and I have to know that I gave everything I had to make my family okay,” he said. “At the end of the day, that’s all that matters to me are my family, bro. I come from nothing, so it’s like my family, they came with me. That’s all I care about. Couldn’t give a f**k less about anything else. My mom, my dad, my sister, my brother—they’re good, I’m good. They’re not good; I’m not good. I put everything I had into everything, so once they’re good, I can start living a little. My mid-thirties I can live a little. And I’m so okay with that. I’m cool with that.”
He goes on to say, “[Females] They want what they want, I tell them what I want. It doesn’t quite work out that well. That’s why I’m by myself.”
“I understand what females want and need, you know,” Jordan added. “I’m good at that. I don’t know if I’m the guy to give it to them right now. I’m emotionally unavailable. Until I find something that’s so undeniable that I can’t help myself. Other than that, I need to work on making sure my mom is okay. That’s all I care about, honestly. Females, they come and go.”