When is it okay for two people to have sex in a relationship after they start dating? Is it after a month or two? Maybe wait until engagement? After a few dates? Or wait until that very first night of marriage? What about having sex on the first date?
There are so many thoughts and opinions that surround this question, and all of us are going to have our own personal preferences. It can be hard to determine a right or wrong answer to this question. There are couples that wait so long before they have sex, and they have long-lasting relationships. But the same can also be said of couples who have sex on the first night. Each and every one of us is going to have our own opinions on the matter. And we’re going to be able to defend those opinions with our own reasoning. It all really depends on the type of person you are and the kind of relationship that you’re in. And it’s pointless for you to ever to try to persuade another person that one method is better than the other. You can only ever really do what works for you and you should stick to it.
That’s why it’s important to stress that whatever is going to be written in this article isn’t exactly going to be an open and shut case for every single relationship out there. As human beings, we all have our own personal traits that make us unique and special. And we bring all of those distinct traits into our relationships. That’s why all of our relationships are going to be unique as well.
However, this article is going to try to highlight that there are some very significant benefits that come with delaying sex in a relationship. That isn’t to say that sex on the first date wouldn’t be gratifying or beneficial. This article just wants to highlight the many reasons why there is merit in waiting before you actually become intimate with someone in your relationship. And it’s also important to note that this relationship is mostly targeted at people or couples who are looking to be in long-term relationships. This article doesn’t really do anything for people who only want to be in sexual relationships or one-night stands.
1. What’s the evidence that delaying sex can actually be better for a long-term romance?
You might be familiar with the idea of delaying sex for the sake of a relationship. You might have been taught about it at school, at church, or even at home. But is there really any actual proof that can help strengthen this claim? Is it really better for couples to abstain from having sex in the earlier parts of their relationship?
In a recent study conducted by Dr. Dean Busby, over 2000 participants provided sufficient data to prove that couples who delayed intimacy in their relationships found better satisfaction in the other areas of their relationship; and that they had better chances at surviving long-term relationships when compared to others. And what’s interesting to know about this study is that the participants spanned an array of religious backgrounds, ethnicities, races, cultures, ages, income brackets, educational backgrounds, and relationship types.
2. Given that that is the data, why does sex benefit long-term relationships in the first place?
It’s important to note that these studies are mostly inconclusive and that they don’t necessarily offer a definitive answer. Yes, it might show that there is a direct correlation between delayed sex and the prospects of success in a relationship. However, they don’t really offer a solid generalization that can be applied to all couples and relationships.
For some people, it’s important to have sex early on in order to determine the sexual compatibility of a couple. Sex is often seen as the pinnacle of physical intimacy; and when the sex is just off between two people, some just believe it’s better to find that out early instead of later on in the relationship. However, there are also those who believe that it’s important for couples to establish and build a bond over time before they actually test their sexual compatibility. And that seems to make more sense in this regard. We always have to look at love and relationships s a constant learning process. Yes, it’s important o have compatibility early on. However, intimacy is something that can always be built and improved on. You can always strengthen the connection that you have with another person. You just have to be able to stay patient and resilient.
At the end of the day, sex is going to play an important aspect in any relationship; and it’s important that the two of you embark on your sexual explorations together as a couple.
